Celebrate Kids Podcast with Dr. Kathy

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids Podcast, Dr. Kathy Koch and Wayne Stender explore how artificial intelligence may be reshaping the way kids understand friendship and intimacy. They discuss the danger of relationships that offer companionship without friction or reciprocity, and why children need real people to discover who they are and how relationships work. Parents will be encouraged to create shared experiences, ask meaningful questions, spend unhurried time together, and help kids develop relational skills that can only grow through knowing and being known by others.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids Podcast, Dr. Kathy Koch and Wayne Stender explore why sadness is a normal human emotion and how adults can respond when a child seems persistently down or hopeless. They discuss noticing behavioral changes, helping kids build emotional vocabulary, resisting the urge to quickly fix or spiritualize their pain, and creating homes where children feel seen, wanted, and able to talk. Parents and caring adults will be encouraged to offer steady presence and attentive support that helps bruised kids begin to heal.

As AI "friends" become more common, what are our kids really learning about friendship? In this episode, Dr. Kathy Koch and Wayne Stender unpack Meta's new chatbot update and explore how true friendships form character, resilience, and faith. Learn how to help your kids value real people over artificial connection—and why Jesus' definition of friendship changes everything.

When does helping someone cross the line from compassion into condescension? In this episode, Dr. Kathy Koch and Wayne Stender unpack a viral Supreme Court moment that raises tough questions about empathy, equality, and how we treat others. Learn how to teach your kids the difference between pity and Christ-like compassion—and how true love restores dignity instead of diminishing it.

Dr. Kathy recently visited Princeton Minnesota and conducted a two day parent training at New Life Church. We brought some of the questions we fielded after her teaching to the podcast to encourage you. If you'd like to bring Dr. Kathy to your church, school, or community for parent training, visit www.celebratekids.com

How do we talk to our kids about the hard things they see in the news without overwhelming them? In this episode, Dr. Kathy Koch and Wayne Stender explore how parents can help children process violence, fear, and brokenness with truth and hope. Learn how creativity, compassion, and Christ-centered security can become release valves for kids' anxiety in a world that often feels heavy.

Our kids are tired, but not just from sports or school. In this episode of the Celebrate Kids Podcast, Dr. Kathy and Wayne Stender unpack how smartphones are quietly stealing sleep, peace, and purpose from our children. Learn how constant connection leads to exhaustion and anxiety, and how reclaiming rest can restore focus, joy, and faith in your home.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids Podcast, Dr. Kathy Koch and Wayne Stender explore the growing use of weight loss medications in children and the deeper questions parents should consider about health, habits, identity, and emotional well being. They discuss how food can become connected to loneliness, stress, family patterns, and self worth, and why treating weight alone may miss what is happening underneath. Parents will be encouraged to seek wise medical support, look for patterns, build healthier family rhythms, and help kids understand that their value is rooted in who God created them to be not in what the scale says.

When was the last time you looked around a room full of kids and saw every face lit—not by screens—but by conversation and curiosity? Across the country, more schools are going device-free, and something amazing is happening: kids are becoming more attentive, more engaged, and more confident. In this episode of the Celebrate Kids Podcast, Dr. Kathy and Wayne Stender unpack what's really going on when we unplug. Dr. Kathy explains that technology, while useful, can condition children to expect life to be easy—and when challenges come, they give up too soon. True resilience, she says, comes from facing real-life challenges, learning through struggle, and being guided by caring mentors and teachers. Wayne and Dr. Kathy share stories of classrooms that have banned devices and rediscovered the joy of eye contact, laughter, and deep discussion. They also dive into how screens affect the brain, why "teachers teach—devices don't," and how parents can intentionally awaken their kids' natural strengths—the 8 Great…

In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne Stender and Dr. Kathy Koch tackle a question many parents quietly wrestle with: Can we really afford to raise kids in today's world? Drawing from both research and real-life experience, they unpack the financial realities of family life and explore what it means to trust God's calling over cultural caution. Dr. Kathy emphasizes that parenting isn't just a financial decision, it's a spiritual one. She encourages parents to seek the Lord's guidance when considering children, to embrace sacrifice with joy, and to celebrate kids as image bearers, not economic burdens. Together, Wayne and Dr. Kathy connect these themes to the book of Haggai, reminding listeners that delaying obedience for financial security often leads to spiritual emptiness. Parenting, they say, is sacred temple work—raising the next generation to reflect God's glory in the world.

In this episode of The Celebrate Kids Podcast, the daily episode Facing the Dark, Wayne Stender and Dr. Kathy Koch explore new research on parenting benchmarks and trends, especially the growing movement of "cycle-breaking parenting" among Gen Z moms and dads. Together, they unpack what it means to parent with both wisdom and grace, moving beyond negative family patterns without shaming past generations. Dr. Kathy shares practical insights on being unified as parents, balancing correction with encouragement, and raising kids who know their God-given strengths. Wayne connects these themes to Ezekiel 18, showing how Scripture reminds us that every generation can step into fresh mercies and new beginnings.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, Dr. Kathy delves into the recent National Assessment of Education Progress (NAEP) report, often referred to as the nation's report card. The findings reveal that high school seniors are experiencing a significant decline in math and reading skills, with scores reaching historic lows. 12th graders have recorded the weakest performance since the assessment began. Dr. Kathy raises important questions about whether current educational assessments are outdated, considering the advancements in technology such as computers and AI that have emerged since the assessment's inception in 1992. The discussion prompts listeners to reflect on the effectiveness of traditional educational standards in today's rapidly evolving world.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids Podcast, Dr. Kathy Koch and Wayne Stender explore why knowing the right answer on a test is not the same as being ready to use that knowledge in real life. Using driver's education as an example, they discuss how experience, practice, character, and different learning strengths all contribute to genuine competence. Parents will be encouraged to look beyond conventional measures of success and teach their children in ways that help them become capable and confident in the situations they will actually face.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids Podcast, Dr. Kathy Koch and Wayne Stender explore concerns that young people may be losing some of the cognitive strength earlier generations developed through reading, sustained attention, memorization, challenge, and real world relationships. They discuss how screens may be crowding out activities that build deeper thinking and why parents still have tremendous influence at home. Parents will be encouraged to read with their kids, value learning over grades, create meaningful challenges, invest relationally, and help children believe that their future, and the wisdom they can bring to it, matters.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids Podcast, Dr. Kathy Koch and Wayne Stender explore why so many Americans are dissatisfied with education while often feeling better about their own children's schools. They discuss the difference between simply delivering information and actually developing critical thinking, curiosity, wisdom, and readiness for life. Parents will be encouraged to look closely at what their own kids are experiencing, ask better questions about learning, stay involved with teachers and schools, and remember that education should help children do more than know facts; it should help them understand and wisely engage the world around them.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids Podcast, Dr. Kathy Koch and Wayne Stender address the growing threat of sextortion and why kids who are exploited online often stay silent out of shame or fear. They discuss the importance of keeping phones out of bedrooms and preparing ahead of time for how parents will respond if a child comes to them in crisis. Parents will be encouraged to build relationships marked by calm, trust, presence, and grace so their kids know that no mistake or manipulation has to be carried alone.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, host Wayne Stender and Dr. Kathy emphasize the critical roles boys and young men need to embody as sages, explorers, servants, warriors, and husbands. The discussion is sparked by recent events, including the assassination of their friend Charlie Kirk, and touches on the perceived crisis among young men exacerbated by the COVID pandemic and cultural shifts. Dr. Kathy advocates for a holistic understanding of masculinity that balances strength with servitude, aiming to inspire resilience and growth in the younger generation. Tune in to explore these vital themes and learn how we can support boys in their development.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, Dr. Kathy delves into the challenges faced by today's youth, who often grapple with the pressures of hyperproductivity and the quest for perfection. She emphasizes the importance of helping children build their identity in Christ rather than solely focusing on their achievements. The discussion highlights the need for parents to recognize and celebrate their children's qualities, such as loyalty and confidence, and to be mindful of the potential dark places that the pursuit of being the best can lead both teens and parents. With insights from researchers at the Harvard Graduate School of Education, Dr. Kathy explores how we can guide our kids through the complexities of modern life while nurturing their spiritual and emotional well-being. Join us as we learn how to support our children in thriving amidst the pressures of their generation.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids Podcast, Dr. Kathy Koch and Wayne Stender explore how artificial intelligence can support learning without replacing the thinking kids need to do on their own. They discuss a practical "stoplight" approach to AI use, how technology can spark curiosity and deepen understanding, and why some assignments still need the struggle of independent thinking. Parents and educators will be encouraged to help kids evaluate when AI is a useful tool and how to preserve the practice and competence that genuine learning requires.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids Podcast, Dr. Kathy Koch and Wayne Stender explore why kids can become irritable, anxious, restless, and unfocused when screen time suddenly drops after a season of heavier use. They discuss how screens shape attention and daily rhythms and how parents can create healthier patterns without making every break from routine a technology binge. Parents will be encouraged to use gradual transitions and help kids develop new rhythms and desires that support self control and healthier engagement with everyday life.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, Dr. Kathy explores the impact of well-designed homework on student learning. She discusses recent research that shows that upper-grade students can gain approximately five extra months of progress in subjects like math and English through effectively structured homework. In contrast, primary school students benefit less, gaining around three months of additional educational value. Dr. Kathy emphasizes the importance of engaging homework to avoid boredom and frustration, encouraging parents to consider discussing their children's assignments with teachers if they find them unengaging. Tune in to learn more about how homework can effectively reinforce skills and enhance learning when designed thoughtfully.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, Dr. Kathy explores the dynamics of obedience and behavior in children and teenagers. Drawing on recent research from U.S. and Israeli studies, she discusses how the authenticity of parents' values heavily influences the effectiveness of parental warnings. When parents model their values consistently and appear genuinely satisfied, their guidance is more likely to be respected by teenagers. However, inconsistencies can lead to feelings of control, resulting in defiance. Dr. Kathy emphasizes the importance of building a loving relationship with children, noting that while authentic parenting can reduce defiance, it may not completely eliminate risky behaviors. Tune in for valuable insights on fostering obedience and positive behavior in children.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids Podcast, Dr. Kathy Koch and Wayne Stender explore how diagnoses such as autism, ADHD, dyslexia, and other learning differences can help parents understand their children without reducing them to a label. They discuss how different brains may process the world in genuinely different ways, why environment and fit matter, and how the Eight Great Smarts can help families recognize strengths that might otherwise be overlooked. Parents will be encouraged to seek wise support and help children understand that a challenge in one setting may reveal a meaningful strength in another.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids Podcast, Dr. Kathy Koch and Wayne Stender explore the difference between compassionately supporting an anxious child and unintentionally teaching them to avoid difficult things. They discuss family accommodation, resilience, knowing when to challenge a child, and how parents can help kids discover that discomfort is survivable. Parents will be encouraged to know their individual children and help them grow in confidence by facing appropriate challenges while grounding their security in God.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids Podcast, Dr. Kathy Koch and Wayne Stender explore what can happen when teenagers step away from phones and the constant pressure of being watched. They discuss how device free environments can strengthen belonging and give kids space to be more fully themselves. Parents will be encouraged to create rhythms of presence at home and help them build an identity rooted in character and ultimately in God rather than in an online audience.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, Dr. Kathy discusses the generational differences in patience and the impact of artificial intelligence on adolescent brain development. She highlights how older generations have a default of patience, having been raised in an era where waiting was the norm, while younger generations often expect instant gratification. Dr. Kathy dives into concerns surrounding the adolescent brain, particularly the development of the prefrontal cortex during these formative years, and how AI may be influencing this process. She raises critical questions about the potential for AI to serve as a "prosthetic for thinking," possibly detracting from social interactions and cognitive growth. Join us as we explore these pressing issues and consider their implications for the future of our children.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, Dr. Kathy delves into the concerning impact of TikTok and other social media platforms on young users' mental health. Drawing from insights from current and former employees who have raised alarms about the app's popularity algorithm, Dr. Kathy discusses how these platforms may lead children to develop a narrow identity, focusing on specific interests or influencers that can limit their personal growth. The conversation highlights the importance of understanding the unseen influences at play and the potential harm to children's mental well-being in a digital age where the reality of their experiences is shaped by algorithms. Tune in to explore the implications of social media on youth and how we can navigate these challenges together. This episode references Dr. Kathy's book Five to Thrive>>

In this episode, Dr. Kathy Koch discusses the importance of recognizing and nurturing the different types of intelligences in children, particularly focusing on "word smart" kids. Dr. Koch explains how children who excel in verbal skills tend to find school more approachable, as it heavily involves talking, reading, writing, and listening. She highlights the potential anxiety that other children may experience in school if they do not feel competent or smart in these areas. The episode also emphasizes the significance of providing diverse learning experiences to help all children thrive. Additionally, Wayne shares a special message about the art education program, Creating a Masterpiece, which aims to cultivate various intelligences, including picture and nature smarts, through engaging art activities. Tune in for insights on supporting your child's unique strengths and enhancing their educational experiences.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids Podcast, Dr. Kathy Koch and Wayne Stender explore why fully present play can have such a powerful impact on both kids and parents. They discuss how even a few intentional minutes of connection can strengthen security, attachment, trust, and a child's sense of being known, while also helping parents rediscover joy and purpose. Parents will be encouraged to recognize that their kids are smart and to remember that meaningful play does not have to be perfect or elaborate to matter.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids Podcast, Dr. Kathy Koch and Wayne Stender explore the growing influence of mental health content on social media and the important difference between learning psychological language and actually receiving care. They discuss how online content can help kids feel less alone while also spreading incomplete information or replacing needed relationships. Parents will be encouraged to stay curious about what their kids are learning online and remember that lasting help is built through trustworthy people who know and stay.

In today's episode Dr. Kathy explores the idea of Fawning, when a child seems agreeable but is actually suppressing opinions, ideas, and insight because he or she doesn't want to offend or cause problems. Co-host Wayne Stender pushes Dr. Kathy to help us consider when kids might be fawning and when they might legitimately don't have something to add to conversation or situations. It's a great discussion to give perspective on awakening courage in your child, especially if they are naturally a peacemaker or quiet. Pick up the book that speaks best to this topic: Start With The Heart>>

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids Podcast, Dr. Kathy Koch and Wayne Stender explore why telling an anxious child to "just relax" often does not work and what parents can do instead. They discuss how stress affects the developing brain and how the Eight Great Smarts can help parents respond more personally. Parents will be encouraged to approach anxious kids with compassion and be a steady presence who points them toward the security and peace found in God.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids Podcast, Dr. Kathy Koch and Wayne Stender explore how sleep, nutrition, physical activity, and screen habits work together to shape a child's health and development. They discuss how physical well being can influence security, identity, belonging, purpose, and competence, while encouraging parents to model the habits they hope to see in their kids. Families will be challenged to make gradual, realistic changes together and view caring for the body as an important part of helping kids flourish.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids Podcast, Dr. Kathy Koch and Wayne Stender explore the often hidden cost of caregiving and what happens when loving someone else causes our own needs to continually move to the bottom of the list. They discuss sacrifice, burnout, identity, asking for help, and the importance of remembering that caregivers matter too. Listeners will be encouraged to seek support while remaining rooted in Christ and to recognize that caring for themselves can help them continue to love and serve others faithfully.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids Podcast, Dr. Kathy Koch and Wayne Stender explore new teen focused safeguards in ChatGPT and what they can, and cannot, do for young people. They discuss emotional dependence, study tools, discernment, and the temptation to let AI replace the struggle and relationships that make learning meaningful. Parents will be encouraged to help teens use technology wisely while forming them to recognize trustworthy voices and stay rooted in relationships and truth that AI cannot replace.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids Podcast, Dr. Kathy Koch and Wayne Stender explore new neuroscience showing that the brain is built not only to remember the past, but to imagine possible futures. They discuss how security, identity, wonder, and the Eight Great Smarts can help kids picture who they might become without forcing them into a parent's preferred path. Parents will be encouraged to slow down, ask better questions, create opportunities for exploration, and help children develop confidence that God can guide them toward a future they cannot fully see yet.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, Dr. Kathy explores the pressures parents face as their children return to school, particularly the urge to ensure high achievement through tutoring and extra activities. Drawing on insights from Jennifer Wallace's research, which highlights the importance of a "mattering mindset," Dr. Kathy emphasizes that children's long-term success is rooted in their belief in their inherent worth and ability to positively impact the world. The discussion delves into the societal expectations of parenting, the push for children to excel, and the need for a balance between achievement and self-worth. Tune in for valuable insights on fostering motivation and self-esteem in kids. Order 8 Great Smarts>> Order Start with the Heart>>

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids Podcast, Dr. Kathy Koch and Wayne Stender explore why more young people are disengaging from education and work and why the answer may begin much earlier than adolescence. They discuss the importance of security, identity, belonging, purpose, and competence, as well as the role that parents, schools, churches, and communities can play in helping kids discover that they are capable and created to contribute. Parents and leaders will be encouraged to look beyond early warning signs and instead help children recognize the gifts and purposes God has already placed within them.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids Podcast, Dr. Kathy Koch and Wayne Stender explore new research showing how severe early childhood stress can leave lasting biological effects while also emphasizing that those effects do not have to determine a child's future. They discuss the difference between healthy stress that builds resilience and traumatic stress that overwhelms, as well as the importance of presence, patience, compassion, and safe relationships in helping children heal. Parents will be encouraged to look beneath behavior and remember that consistent, loving adults can play a powerful role in rebuilding security and hope.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids Podcast, Dr. Kathy Koch and Wayne Stender explore new research showing how warm, responsive caregiving can shape a child's developing brain and even buffer against some early risks associated with ADHD. They discuss the power of eye contact, conversation, play, and simply responding when kids reach for us, while also considering what parents may lose when screens repeatedly pull their attention away. Parents will be encouraged to remember that it is never too late to become more present and that small, intentional moments of attention can build connection and trust.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids Podcast, Dr. Kathy Koch and Wayne Stender explore new research suggesting that the impact of screens may depend less on simple time limits and more on how, when, why, and with whom kids use them. They discuss the difference between screens as toys and screens as tools and why parents need to know their individual children when setting boundaries. Parents will be encouraged to move beyond fear based rules and instead teach kids to use technology with wisdom, balance, curiosity, and discernment.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, Dr. Kathy discusses the importance of play in childhood and how it shapes children's self worth and resilience. Highlighting a recent statement by Senator Lincoln Fillmore, Dr. Kathy reflects on the nostalgic view of childhood, emphasizing the shift from unstructured play to a more programmed and supervised environment. Fillmore argues that this change is hindering children's development of crucial life skills such as perseverance and self confidence. The episode dives into the balance between safety and the necessity of allowing children the freedom to explore, learn, and grow independently. Join us for valuable insights on fostering independence in children and the critical role of play in their development.

In this episode of Celebrate Kids, Wayne Stender shares exciting updates from their recent meeting with book publishers before Dr. Kathy explores new data that shows a shift in teen perspectives in technology. She dives into a new trend in identity dysphoria, and gives helpful tips to connect being created on purpose with a purpose for a purpose. Resources in this podcast: Five to Thrive>> Start with the Heart>>

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, Dr. Kathy shares her journey of personal growth and the importance of allowing young people the space to explore their paths without the pressure to get it right immediately. Drawing on her experiences as a teacher and professor, she emphasizes that change is a natural part of life and growth. The discussion shifts to the future of parenting, highlighting a recent Gallup survey that explored parents' perceptions about their children's readiness to launch into adulthood. Dr. Kathy encourages parents to embrace the journey of raising their children, preparing them to thrive as young adults in an ever-changing world. Join her as she offers insights and reflections on navigating the challenges and uncertainties of parenting.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids Podcast, Dr. Kathy Koch and Wayne Stender explore how parents can help children develop confidence in the way God created them while navigating a culture filled with competing messages about gender and identity. They discuss the importance of grounding kids in Scripture, security, belonging, and identity in Christ while also teaching them to treat others with respect and compassion. Parents will be encouraged to speak truth clearly and help kids understand that genuine love does not abandon truth, especially when a child is confused or hurting.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids Podcast, Dr. Kathy Koch and Wayne Stender explore what parents gain and risk losing when AI becomes part of family life. They discuss how technology can be a useful tool for learning, while reminding parents that information can never replace relationships, curiosity, presence, and truly knowing a child. Parents will be encouraged to protect the quiet, ordinary moments when trust grows and to ensure AI supports their parenting rather than replacing the conversations and connections their kids need most.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, host Wayne Stender and Dr. Kathy discuss the critical issue of loneliness, particularly among young people. Dr. Kathy shares her perspective as a single adult, emphasizing that being alone does not equate to being lonely. Wayne highlights the importance of understanding this distinction and encourages listeners to recognize that solitude can be a fulfilling experience. The episode also touches on alarming statistics indicating that about one in six people globally experience loneliness, with the highest rates found in adolescents aged 13 to 17. Tune in to explore the nuances of loneliness and discover ways to foster connection and understanding among young people.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids Podcast, Dr. Kathy Koch and Wayne Stender explore why screens may affect children differently at key stages of development and what kids need from parents that technology cannot provide. They discuss the importance of love, touch, interaction, working memory, and real world experiences while helping parents think beyond simply limiting screen time. Parents will be encouraged to consider not only how much screen time their children have, but what that screen time may be replacing and whether their kids are getting the attentive, face-to-face relationships they need to grow well.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids Podcast, Dr. Kathy Koch and Wayne Stender explore why sleep is essential for kids as families transition back to school. They discuss why tired brains struggle with attention and self control, and how parents can gradually rebuild healthy sleep rhythms without turning bedtime into a battle. Parents will be encouraged to see rest not simply as a health habit, but as an important part of helping children grow physically, emotionally, academically, and spiritually.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids Podcast, Dr. Kathy Koch and Wayne Stender explore why friendships matter so much as kids head back to school and how parents can help prepare them for the social challenges ahead. They discuss belonging and security while offering practical ways to teach kids how to introduce themselves, ask good questions, respect others, navigate disagreements, and step confidently into new relationships. Parents will be encouraged to see friendship skills not as something kids simply figure out, but as important tools we can intentionally teach and model.