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O que é isso?
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A little later on this morning, sizzling summer comes to an end with a dose of wet weather and thunderstorms. Now, if you were out and about yesterday, you don't need me to tell you of that fall of rain that just went on and on and on. The further west you went, the heavier it was. And I'll tell you one thing. To anybody that was driving yesterday afternoon, say, for instance, on things like the McCroom Bypass, which is open and exposed to all weather. It's also higher up, so therefore it got even more of a belting. Boa noite.
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Now, big story over the weekend is whether or not Donald Trump will be welcome when he comes. They said in the Red Tops yesterday that he could well bring up to a thousand people with him when he visits Ireland in September. The Irish Open in Doonbeg.
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He owns it, so he can hardly be kept away, I suppose. It's still his golf course, but they're saying about let's put P-U-T-T our foot down. He ain't welcome here. A warmonger president, that's according to MEPs and also the Labour Party and others are saying no, not now. And what's interesting about this is I was reading last night then that we don't even know if he does come here, whether President Connolly and the president is supposed to remain completely and utterly apolitical. Mas você não vai dizer que sobre President Connolly, com todo o respeito.
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Então, se você quiser ver ou não, você vai ver Donald Trump se e quando ele vem aqui no final do mês. Então, vamos ver e ver o que acontece com isso. Eu acho que se ele quiser vir, ele vai vir, regardless do que as pessoas falam. Mas ele faz o papéis também em outras maneiras, porque eu não sei o que ele está fazendo em pequenas horas do dia, mas em o horário do dia, ele está dizendo que Donald Trump... At around about half past one this morning, went and posted an AI portrait of himself sitting next to George Washington and Abraham Lincoln. I mean, if you don't big yourself up, I suppose, who will?
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If you don't say nice, kind things about yourself, who will? He's 80 years old now, they say. Not that that's of any consequence in any way, shape or form, but just after one o'clock yesterday morning he posted that. And it follows on an AI shot of himself arresting an alien at the weekend. And the red tops this morning are saying that one critic, unnamed, E aí .
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now living between the streets and homeless shelters for three years. He says, the things I've seen in the last few years are probably going to traumatise me for the rest of my life. And I'm not taking for that at all, but we also then see refugee centres, particularly modular home complexes. Now, it's going to be very interesting with the modular homes from this month onwards because everything starts to change. And by the spring of next year, A lot of things will have changed with regards to providing accommodation of various sorts and providing different welfare payments.
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And also the payments to homes that have taken in Ukrainian refugees will all stop. And that will be over the next six months. But they're talking about one particular complex in County Tipperary. Well, there's 82 modular homes where the state has had to spend 4 million euros. E aí Now, I want to come back to other aspects a little later on because you talk about homelessness and lack of accommodation, but there also is another very worrying, alarming increase in the cost of apartment rental in the city, in the suburbs and across the county.
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I did some research on this over the weekend on Daft and I came up with maybe 10 or 12 different apartments right across the city and suburbs and a comparable amount then in places like Bandon, Middleton and Mitchelstown. I won't say much more about it now except that I was absolutely alarmed when I saw the actual rental per month for two bedroom apartments. Like... Some of them, I mean, obviously, you can't compare like with like. If you look at, say, Harty's Quay or if you look at the Elysian or places like that, I get that. But these are just general apartments where you would struggle now to find, and I mean really struggle now, to find something in the shape of a two-bedroom apartment for less than £2,400 to £2,500.
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And I have the evidence of it from Daftali over the weekend. Interestingly, you know, when you think that we need more and more Gardaí, and we certainly do, and they need to be paid properly, and they need to be given proper pay and conditions, and to indeed enjoy their jobs, there's a byline story making the papers today of a reduction in the amount of Gardaí in Cork City. Like the Echo says, that we're down 21%.
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E aí E o total foi 3,500 detectados por speeding sobre o bank holiday weekend, com um lunatic aboveno em County Leitrim, que foi caught doing 182 quilômetros em uma 100 quilômetros zona.
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Agora, dois pessoas died no roads sobre o weekend. E, forgive me por dizer isso, while dois deaths são absolutamente tragic, é um pouco menos que outros bank holiday weekends, quando você pode ter figures de seis, sete ou oito. Mas, however, há 110 pessoas que têm perdido seus lives no roads so far this ano. E aí E aí E aí E aí E aí E aí E aí E aí .
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A tragica singer would be laid to rest later today. And there are other musical-related stories making the papers. If you're a fan of Ariana Grande, and I mean genuinely a fan, then you should, and I think you possibly are, very worried about her health. It was photographs of the weekend where I have to say she looks emaciated and skeletal. Now, the problem with this is, as one person who is quoted in one of the Red Tops this morning says, if we comment on our body, we could harm our mental health.
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And if we don't comment on our body, we run the risk of normalising the image of her to the hundreds of millions of teenage girls and impressionable adults who will think that this is the way to look. Now, she is alarmingly thin. E eu menciono isso porque é preocupante neste momento, quando você ouvir que ela decidiu tomar um passo backo de visibilidade. O que a papers this morning estão dizendo que ela está saindo de uma West End debut, ela vai terminar a tour e então ela vai ter um breako de trabalho publico-facing.
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E aí He's had to pull out of a show as well. He was ready to take the stage for Jesus Christ Superstar in the London Palladium. And there's a double page spread in the mail this morning saying that he's pulled out of that.
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And it all centers around what people are deeming to be his support and the release of a song and statements that he has made in support of Israel. Então, há um colar piece, não é um colar piece, mas é um opinião piece que faz The Mail hoje. Ele diz que, por favor, George's decision to release a song in support of Israel's war in Gaza, você certamente teria que dizer que ele serviu his time as a pop star durante a década. Ele diz que, Christopher Stevens in The Mail, ele diz que, todo o rebelleion must follow strict rules, as it would appear, e todo o rebelleion must sing from the approved song sheet of the left.
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And from heat then to freezing cold conditions. With this story that makes both the English Times and the Telegraph, it's beyond bizarre. And you see stories like this from time to time. And it's the story of a man who kept his dead mother inside a freezer for three years while he continued to collect £78,000 in benefits for her. Now, he's got jail for two years, a 60-year-old called Christopher Phillips, and the charge against him was preventing the lawful and diesel burial of his mother, aged 89, in Wales.
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So he was claiming her pension and her credits and her different allowances and fuel payments and cost of living payments and housing benefit and all sorts of things to the tune of 78,000 in a two-year period, which in itself, I suppose, is an interesting statistic that that kind of money can be made in general payments. But he... He was constantly telling medical staff because she would get appointments to go to for checkups and things like that was a GP or maybe maybe a hospital and he would keep on responding saying that she did not wish to attend appointments or undergoing undergo any tests.
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But when they eventually called they found her inside in the living room inside in a chest freezer which he went out and bought a couple of days after she died. It's just bizarre. The mail carry another part of it. He says he had her body in the living room of the home that they shared. ...inside in the living room in a freezer... ...and he would hold hands with her... ...just as they always did... ...while watching Coronation Street...
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The stories these days are just absolutely bizarre. And then there's another interesting one. They're trying to come up with ways of releasing more space in prisons because of capacity. British prisons are very much like ours. They're overcapacity, if you like, and collapsing at the seams because of it. So one of the first things that Andy Burnham has decided to do, and it's the front page making the English Times this morning, is that killers, but not rapists, will be given early release. Criminals convicted of rape, grooming offences, child sexual assaults will no longer get early release, but somebody who has done time or is doing time for manslaughter, serious domestic abuse, would be freed and will continue to be freed early.
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Which is amazing, really. You would think that neither of would get out early at all, rather than deciding on one as opposed to the other. And when decisions are being made then, and a lot of it can have to do with diagnoses and where you get the diagnoses, whether it's through a public health system or whether it's through a private company that will provide a diagnosis of autism or spectrum-related issues or ADD or ADHD.
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Uma coisa que nós podemos dizer, sem medo de alguma correcção, é que a diagnóstica de várias formas de espectro issues, incluindo ADD e ADHD, tem ido a uma rápida pace, uma maneira, e que é uma grande quantidade de diagnóstica, e muito mais so... No papers this morning, I see a couple of sidebars on it with regards to that it's being overly diagnosed. And why is, say, for instance, ADD and ADHD being overly diagnosed?
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It's because one professional has said that it's because of the popularization on social media and that it's too broad, it's too vague. And these kind of diagnoses are being sought and e que é um problema de ideias que estão sendo spreadadas online. Então, a diagnóstica de autismo é tão grande, que agora é um uso, o diagnóstico, por causa da quantidade de pessoas que estão presentando agora. E o que é muito engraçado sobre isso é que se você tem um sonho ou um filho que está vivendo com alguém que é realmente no espectro e tem autismo ou vive com autismo, e você vê isso com os pais que estão olhando para filhos de autismo, e você vê isso com os pais que estão olhando para filhos que estão olhando para filhos de autismo They get lost in the fog because of all the other diagnoses that are saying being overdiagnosed is making the whole area now almost completely useless.
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So much so, and I don't know if it would happen here, that you have people now on different kind of diagnoses who are being paid welfare benefit accordingly because they are deemed to be disabled. Mas isso se tornou um pouco de um scam, porque agora há todos os lugares onde você pode ir para ver como você pode abusar do sistema. Se você pode conseguir um ADHD diagnóstico e os diferentes tipos de pagamentos que você pode fazer. Então, os pagamentos estão dizendo em Telegraph this morning que descansos estão sendo oferecendo por coisas como holidays.
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Weirdly, they say sex toys. I have no idea why. Watches, jewellery, designer clothing, which is designed for disabled people. And you can get discounts and things like that. Holidays overseas. They say one of them involves TUI, who include a €500 off TUI holiday and yet two holidays to Alton Towers or visits to the zoo. for those that need it, which is kind of weird, really, when they say that living, as according to Reform UK, saying that living on benefits is becoming so much more attractive now than working, so much so that people are coaching others on how to exploit schemes on social media.
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And then, of course, I can't understand this. If you were a member of the Charton family and Jack Charton gave his World Cup 1966 winner's medal, ...to his son... ...or to keep it in the family... ...who's going to know that? So how in the name of God now... ...can the family be hassled... ...for tax... ...to inherit... ...this heirloom? They're saying that if they kept it... ...in the family for the next couple of generations... ...they would end up paying €230,000... ...in tax... ...to inherit the priceless heirloom.
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But like... ...how would anybody even know... who had the medal or where the medal was. So I don't understand that story, but it makes the front page of the likes of The Mirror and The Star and things like that. And I know you could fill an entire week then when it comes to things like, you know, your love of your pet. It could be a dog. It could be a cat. It could be a turtle or a tortoise. But this is a lovely story of Oscar, a six-year-old French bulldog who died suddenly of a brain tumour, right? And his...
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I suppose his owner, or his life partner, or whatever the proper term is for the pet that you love, decided to launch his ashes in a balloon. And there's nothing wrong with that. It's a weather balloon, although some would say it might be a hazard to navigation. I know nothing about that. So himself and his pal got a balloon and put the ashes into the balloon, as opposed to some kind of helium inside it, so it rose and rose and rose. And when it climbed up to the edge of the Earth's atmosphere, The temperature had dropped to minus 72 Celsius, so the balloon burst.
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And of course, what happened next is that little Oscar's ashes went for a spacewalk on his final adventure. They say in life, Oscar the dog was a big fan of Toy Story. And I suppose if we all looked closely enough, we could probably find a DVD or maybe an old video at home that belonged to Extra Vision. What was the other one called? What were they called? Chartbusters, I think. I know. I got barred, actually, from an extra vision years and years ago.
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Not because of me, but because of videos that my son and daughter were renting on the slide that I knew nothing about and weren't bringing back. And the fees were astronomical. So eventually they kindly said, well, maybe you should just take some time out.
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As in, go get your videos somewhere else. But they just came across an 1858 copy of a book that was out of the library for 150 years in Australia and was brought back by somebody who recently found it renovating the home and they found it, I don't know, stuck somewhere up under a chimney for all I know or a chimney piece or behind a mantelpiece. So they brought it back 150 years later to find that there was a £14,600 late return fee on the book.
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I think the library was more intrigued than anything else. 150 years late, with a 15 grand fine, which they kindly waived, incidentally.
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Bom dia, Neil.
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I don't know what kind of a morning you're having, but you had a horrific weekend, an appalling weekend. Would you mind just talking us through what happened on Friday night down around Mahan?
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Well, earlier that day, my son, would you believe it, was performing in the Everyman at a play with YMCA. He's a good... . . .
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I know where they were because it comes up on my revolution because I'm linked to their revolution. So at 20 past nine they had a transaction in Tesco. At 9.30 I rang and I asked them where they were and they said they were just leaving. At 9.47 I rang my son back and the woman frantically answered the phone. You need to get over her fast. Your son is lying in a terrible state. . . .
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E aí E aí E aí You know, like, that's the first thing.
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I have seen photographs of his face.
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Somebody sees when they look at your face. You know what I mean? Like, they were, like, absolutely thugs. It's too good a word for them.
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Well, they're absolute cowards is what they are. One holds him so he's restrained while the other pummels him and beats him to a foot.
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And the most hurtful thing of all is they made my other son watch that. I mean, like... That's just horrendous. Like imagine your brother being beat to a pulp on the floor and you can't do anything. No, it's appalling.
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Did anybody witness this as it was happening?
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As far as I'm aware of, I don't think so. But this lovely couple... . . . .
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That couple, I think, were the ones who actually called the ambulance and called for help, I think, as far as I know, anyway.
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Okay. I've seen injuries to both of them. One son is particularly badly injured around the head. The other lad has very bad bruising and swelling. But they were clearly brought to an A&E, were they?
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I tell you now, Neil, I'm hair frantic, as you can imagine, like... My son is out to see you hitch. I couldn't go out there until someone relieves me here or home. I'm going, is my son going to be damaged for the rest of his life? Is he going to have brain injuries? These are the thoughts that are going through my head.
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Any parent would be like, yeah, I can imagine.
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Quando alguém finalmente came over in the early morning to relieve me so I could go out or whatever, I passed the scene, Neil, and I'm telling you now, there was a guard sat there minding that scene for the whole life. It was that bad, and that's not an exaggeration. There was toes on the floor, there was blood all over the floor. Ele tinha um baguio que ele tinha com os seus pequenos. Não era um robberio ou não, porque eles não tinham nada de dinheiro. Eles não tinham nada de dinheiro para a criança. É só um desses random attacks que eles estão sentados em pessoas. Ok.
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Eu sei que há eram ruins ruins e você catalogou eles em um artigo em All About Cork. Do você quer falar sobre os injuries?
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He has a fractured nose, a damaged eyeball, a severe concussion. He has bruising and grazes in his hands. He has memory loss. He has been in bed, like, for the whole weekend, you know. Like, he was in the hospital, Rahmation and Neil. Honest to God, I thought he'd have severe brain damage, like the way he was talking. He couldn't remember sitting these even certs. E ele não lembrou o ataque.
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Não, não lembro de nada. Não lembro de nada. Ele era perguntando, o que estava fazendo aqui? Ele não era coerente. Ele era tão não-coerente que eles não conseguiam entender o que aconteceu. Você sabe algo?
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Ele deve ser muito fracassado e ele deve ter sido muito fracassado quando ele veio e não tinha ideia de onde ele era ou de onde ele era. Ele deve ter sido muito fracassado.
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É desprezível, Neil, para olhar para alguém de defesa, filha. Eu, existem outros filhos agora que acontecem em outras áreas, incluindo ela e ela, e ela também, em Alvaro Plunker Street, não há muito tempo. Mas todos esses problemas, Neil, o que frustrante é que esses problemas já foram criados em uma comunidade de farm meetings, por mim. Há também outros problemas, como em Maham Pintos, particularmente no 202 bus, no 202A, around this general area with the carry-on you know and I raise these issues many times Neil right at the community forums where people have an opportunity to come and raise their issues.
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And have parents in the area put their children on alert if they're out and about say on a bus or down around Maham Point to be wary?
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Well I'm constantly ringing my kids Neil to the extent sometimes they don't answer my calls I'm ringing them that much. You're trying to keep tabs on where they are. You're trying to tell them, don't be out, don't be here, don't be there. But like, you know, children should be entitled to be able to walk around where they live. Like, it's unacceptable to think that all that resources there last week were the EU fisheries. Like, there was the armed response. They were brought in from everywhere. Like, and this city that we live in, Where's the resources for the crime that's happening?
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Do you know what I mean?
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Are you saying you'd like to see more boots on the ground, more Garda patrols in the Mahan area?
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Absolutely. Absolutely. I'm sure the councillors who are listening, the City Council...
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O guarda, o superintendente, ou seja, eu não sei, mas isso não é bom, não é? São dois filhos de filhos de filhos de filhos de filhos de filhos de filhos de filhos de filhos de filhos de filhos de filhos de filhos de filhos de filhos de filhos de filhos de filhos de filhos de filhos de filhos de filhos de filhos de filhos de filhos
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But at least they have an idea as to who perhaps was responsible for the attack. So that's at least something, you know. Now, if they're underage, I don't know. If they're previous, I don't know anything about them.
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I can't comment on that, Neil, for other reasons. And I'm not aware of any update to this time as I'm speaking to you. But I'd imagine, well, I would hope that there...
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Doing what they're supposed to be doing and trying to apprehend these people. Now, I wasn't going to raise this issue, but somebody inadvertently is trying to raise the issues that I'm saying by actually putting it out there that this is actually unacceptable behaviour. It shouldn't be my job to do someone else's job.
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Well, I think talking up does help, though, Margot. You know, making it public does help.
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It does, but the other side to that, the other side to that, Neil, is that you can make yourself a target then as well at the same time.
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So, did you sleep then over the weekend with a baseball bat? I didn't.
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I had a baseball bat next to me, Neil. Because, remember now, I'm a woman here when my husband is at my son's hospital bedside trying to figure out what injuries he has. I have a child traumatised I have other young kids and I'm here by myself. Do you know what I mean? So, like, sometimes these people, if they find out where you live, they start coming to your house. You know what I mean?
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That's an appalling way to have to live, I have to tell you.
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I mean, honest to God, like, the guards passed out through my house and my baseball bat was there. Do you know what I mean? And if they had asked me what I was doing with it, I would have said, and what do you think I'm doing with it like?
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I don't want to sound alarmist or anything like that, but are you saying that it's gradually just getting worse and worse and more unsafe?
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I am, Neil. Like, I'm living down in this area now, and I'm telling you now, there's lovely people everywhere, including down here. I'm living down here six years, Neil, and in the last three years particularly, since the pandemic lifted and everything lifted, all the trouble... é começando a come around again. People are walking around. Can anybody tell me why? Because I suppose they know the guards can't be everywhere. Their parents don't know where they are. They don't give a shite where they are. You know what I mean? Well, two things on that.
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They should know where they are and they should care about where they are and how they're behaving. I mean, it could just as easily have been a knife and we could be dealing with a tragedy now.
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Neil, the couple, honest to God now, knocked at my door. I don't know how they found out where I lived, but they knocked at my door the next day. They were traumatised. They said, I have to find out, is your young fellow okay? Because I couldn't sleep a wink. I was worried about him. I couldn't get his face out of my mind.
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Well, the photographs are appalling. The photographs of your lad with all of that blood and his nose all smashed to bits and his eyes gone and, you know, torn and twisted all over his face in a neck brace.
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It's a shocking photograph That's all I can say And the thing is Neil I've dealt with concussion before And I can tell you Concussion does not resolve Concussion can go on months It can go on years Because people with concussion Have long term issues You know Yes and I hope he makes 100% recovery From all of those in time But for now He has a good mother That needs to look after him Because he's going to be very afraid Both of them are going to be afraid Even to go out now My son
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Não, não, não, não, não.
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O que você acha que sua família e sons não tem que sofrer e não tem que sofrer?
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E não tem ninguém que sofrer vivendo nisso, Neil. Velho, velho, velho, velho, velho, velho, velho.
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Mas tudo bem, ok, comunidade é importante, eu entendo, e ter um bom estar em vida é importante, mas é tudo mais importante, mas é tudo mais importante, mas é tudo mais importante, não é? É, Neil, eu vou te dizer algo, e controle da kids.
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There's people listening who I know will know my children. They come from a big family. They've always had two decent parents. We bring them up well. We try to teach them well. Everything that I ever taught my children, then I went out the window because they...
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...been randomly attacked... ...and you're living in a world now... ...where you're worrying about... ...will I carry something in my handbag... ...why should you have to even think like that... ...you know what I mean... ...we're going to turn out like one of those states in America... There's no law in Ordenley that's gone out the window. I mean, I know there's nice guys trying to do their job, right? But they can't do their job if there's not enough of them there. The management, if they're listening, the superintendent, like, you need to put more resources in areas that have troubles.
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É importante, não é importante, mas você não pode ter Gardaí em todos os lugares de todo o tempo, antecipando quando o próximo crime vai ser cometido, o próximo ataque, o próximo ataque, o próximo ataque, o próximo ataque, o próximo ataque. É tudo isso. É controlado por parentes que lhe dão o law e lhe dão vigorously quando se trata de seus filhos ou daughters, o que eles são, o que eles estão fazendo, o que eles estão com, o que eles estão com, o que eles estão com, o que eles estão com.
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Ok.
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And I mean, whoever is accountable, their parents should be ashamed of themselves. To have that randomly go out and attack some random kids going about their business. Do people get satisfaction out of that? Is that how they get their kicks? It's disgusting behaviour and it shouldn't be tolerated.
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OK, well, I hope that your sons will make 100% mental and psychological and physical recovery. Stay in touch. And if there are any updates, particularly with regards to the Guard investigation, let me know, will you, Margot?
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Can I just say one thing, Dernie, before I go? I just want to thank that couple. I don't even know their names, but I just want to thank them for their humanity towards someone else's children. I think what they've done is a lovely thing. I mean, you'll be afraid now to stop at things because you don't know if someone's going to take your car, beat you up, take your belongings, but... I appreciate them and if they're listening they know who they are. I don't know who they are by name but they know who they are.
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I can maybe try and find out who they are if they're listening or if anybody knows them. You can put a name to the faces. Let's do that. Stay in touch Margot.
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That's the half to the story Neil, where there's a tragedy, there'll always be somebody there to help you, like that's the other side of mine, like I don't want to be coming on here slaying everyone because there is decent people everywhere and there were decent people and I have to acknowledge that as well
34:41
Stay in touch, Margot. Thanks for taking the call.
34:44
I appreciate it, Neil.
34:45
Thanks very much. Bye-bye. Text 0868 104 106, particularly if you might have been or you are the two people that came to the aid of Margot's sons. Perhaps you're listening. If not, maybe somebody may know them. It would be nice to put a name to the faces. Pick up the phone 0818 104 106. Get on to Prenderville now.
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0818 104 106.
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The Neil Prenderville.
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To making the point that, you know, a lot of the time with young fellas out marauding like that, the parents don't know where they are and the parents don't care where they are. Incidentally, Gardaí are saying that two individuals thought to be from the area are persons of interest. So we'll come back to this again after 10 text 0868 104 106, particularly with regards to whether or not you worry when you're . . . . . .
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I mean, that's one you'd hold on to, right, KC? The Antiquities of Athens.
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This has given me the fear, Jimmy. The fear. I have about 25 DVDs up in the attic belonging to ExtraVision. They never made their way home.
36:50
A little birdie tells me that you had numerous ExtraVision accounts at one stage.
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I had an account for McCartan Street, I had one for Wilton, one for Ballancolig, there was another one on Panna somewhere and when the fines went nuclear in one place, I'd moved to the next.
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And would one shop not know that you were on the wanted list?
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They weren't, I don't, the systems weren't networked, I think each shop was an individual because you could go in and open a new account and they wouldn't question, hey you owe 40 euro from McCartan Street. I was getting away with murder for years with DVDs.
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O que é isso?
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It wasn't of my making. It was my son and daughter who were going rogue behind my back.
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Oh, anyone could use your cards. That was the thing. You'd go in and you'd give a number. So you didn't even have to present a card half the time. You'd just kind of go 22748.
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Friend of it? Yeah. But I am convinced, and correct me if I'm wrong, people of Carigalline, Super Value and Carigalline had a DVD rental vending machine up to a year ago. I am convinced. Why would you want them anymore, though? The world of Netflix and YouTube. There's a huge renaissance of DVD rentals happening. No, you're not going to see Extra Visions opening around corners again. You're not going to see Blockbusters opening. Yeah. But the whole DVD rental thing is coming back. It's like the resurgence of vinyl.
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Why do people love vinyl? Because they want to hold art. They want to have that record in their hands. And for a whole generation of streaming kids that have never physically went out and dug for records and found stuff and brought it home. It's a different experience. And I think the DVD rental side of things is something that's going to come back. First of all, if you're a movie purist... Watching videos on 4K DVD is a totally different experience because streaming services compress the files. So visually it's not as clean, it's not as crisp to watch it as you would on a DVD.
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But you need a 100 inch 4K plasma, blah, blah, blah, it costs you a couple of grand.
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No, more smart TVs are all 4K.
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Do you think there would be a resurgence in VHS?
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Not in video. Remember that tracking thing you had to do with a video? It was horrible. You'd stick on a video, you know, a tape. You'd have to go down and... The lines out of it. Yeah, you'd take the lines out of it by wiggling with the tracking to get a team.
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Was it true when you rented videos way back along that if you brought them back and they weren't wound back to the start... 50p finder.
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What's that about? Extra Vision used to fine you if you didn't rewind the video. You know that Ema worked in an Extra Vision. She did not, did she? Yeah. No way.
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I was one of those people who actually, what was great about it, because it was the place to be on a Friday and Saturday night, so literally in Balancolic, you'd have like everyone you knew all queued up with their popcorn, their bits and bobs. So then we'd like publicly disgrace them because they'd have to come up to the counter, obviously, and when they were trying to get their new video, we'd say, there's actually a fine layer of 400 euros. And no... Mas é o caso que eu acho que foi R$1.50 a dia para o DVDs e coisas. E se a sua fine foi 15 euros, você deve ter sido contado isso, Neil. Você deve ter sido. O vídeo foi o seu, o DVD foi o seu, se você tinha pagado o 15 euros.
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Você tinha que pagar o 15 euros. Você tinha que pagar o fine?
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Você tinha que pagar o fine?
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Sim, sim, sim. E aí, eu acho que isso foi anos atrás.
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Douglas foi completamente rogued everywhere else. Eles tinham diferentes rules. There was no such rule as that.
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They never told me you can keep it. But the problem was, you see, you could have different fines on different videos. But then I think they did, like the cars in the 1980s, they did an amnesty in 2014 because they were losing all the likes of KC. But they wiped everything.
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Did you wipe fines, though, if you knew somebody at the counter?
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I think there was a case where they, I was young, I was only a teenager, but I think the manager could, he had authority at the time to wipe fines. But I'll tell you something, some of the abuse I got stayed with me. I remember one man in particular and he had me ball inquiring, literally. He would not leave the counter. Over a fine? Over a fine, I couldn't give him something and I was very polite with him or whatever.
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He was planning on watching The Matrix and you wouldn't let him have the DVD and he upset him. He's
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Big bag of jumbo crisps Opened the box and it was the sound of music I know, that happened a lot Can we not all agree The experience of driving to the DVD shop Being in there, looking around Looking for the new releases God I haven't seen that, I haven't seen that Getting your popcorn, going up and paying for it And bringing it home, it was just a nicer experience I know, you have this thing on streaming services So nostalgic, isn't it?
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It was, it was quite ritualistic every Friday and Saturday.
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I still love it. I still absolutely love it. You have now, have you heard of Choice Paralysis?
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Yeah.
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You sit down with your takeaway, you stick on Netflix, okay? You go into the menus, you're there for 45 minutes. It wrecks my head. Everyone's arguing over what to watch. You can't, By the time your food has gone cold... You have to have a plan in advance, don't you? You can't settle on watching one thing.
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So you're all for bringing back the nostalgic days of DVD rentals, not VHS. I've got to ask you a question. For those that have massive, me included, massive back catalogues of VHS that nobody watches, all in the boxes. Is there a market for them? Like second-hand vinyl and things?
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There must be. For original collectors, I'm sure if you have original Ghostbusters on VHS...
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I would check the price on eBay and see what they're working on.
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What are we supposed to do with all of the old PlayStation games that are in the boxes? All the old VHS, all the old DVDs, all of the small little, you know, those tiny little cartridges that went into all of the different games that they had. Consoles.
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Sega Mega Drive were huge in Extra Vision as well. We used to have like rows and rows of all the Sega Mega Drive
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All of that stuff that's just creaking in the homes.
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I think there's a difference though with vinyl. Vinyl still sounds incredible years later but for me even if I watch a movie that's 10 years old now I just can't do it because there's been such advancements in how it visually looks.
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Vinyl is a real success story I have to say.
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I brought about 400 old DVDs that I'm never going to watch again into one of those exchange shops. Do you know how much they gave me for about 400 DVDs? I'm keen to know. 28 euros. Oh god.
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Most of the DVDs they were giving me 5 cent. At least I brought in two massive bags. It was over 400 DVDs. 20 euro? 28 euro. But most DVDs they priced them at about 5 cent a DVD and then they sell them for a euro. That's the value.
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Were you expecting hundreds?
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I was expecting at least maybe about a hundred quid for all of these. No such luck. Your man took the two big bags of DVDs, said come back to me in two days, we'll price them up and he gave me a receipt. I can give you 50 quid store credit or 28 euro now.
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I'd be mortified.
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I kept all the ones, the real collectors ones, you know, the... The proper Godfather type box sets and all that. I kept all of those. But you know the ones you pick up over the years? Yeah, they're not worth the fiddlers, unfortunately.
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Be good now to find people who racked up huge amounts of fines, you know, wouldn't it? Yeah. And who still has maybe something from the library or something from an extra vision or a chart busters.
44:29
Every house in Cork, if you've got a fella to go into the attic right now, he will find Rocky 1, 2 and 3 on DVD that he never left back. Mark my words. Text 0868104106.
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Thanks for jumping on, let's go.
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E é só, é só bright e ainda há um monte de daylight, até 9, 9.45. Um, um, um, um, um, um, um, um, . . .
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I have a 17-year-old myself and if it was his story, I wouldn't be contacting you or the guards. It's a waste of time. There's no justice in that equation. The poor lady is so upset and I can't blame her. Neil, I'm going to drop a voucher in for your attention for the poor lad to let him see that there are some good people in life, says William at work. Thank you for that. E, listen, se você derrubar algo, eu vou passar isso para o jovem lad e eu acho que ele vai ser muito grato.
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O que está acontecendo com o mundo? Bom, há um monte de mal no mundo. Há um monte de crianças que só querem ser capazes de ir para ir para ir para ir para ir para ir para ir para ir para ir para ir para ir para ir para ir para ir para ir para ir para ir para ir para o mundo.
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They got a bit of pocket money together. They did some work for their granny in the house and she gave them a bit of pocket money and they went to buy a few bits and bobs inside in Mahon Point. They were coming home around about nine o'clock on Friday. So it's still bright. And then they're set upon and attacked. And that's the society all too often that we seem to be hearing stories of. . .
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But the city figure has gone from 721 to 708. Now, that's challenging enough, right? But added to the fact that we have on the ground Garda now on the beat. So that makes it more difficult, doesn't it? When we should have more, we seem to have less available. So that's a problem. But I believe, John, good morning.
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Oi Neil, como você está? Eu acredito que a lot of this starts with the home and with parenting and knowing where your kids are and who they're with at all times.
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100%. 100%. I mean, we all know that, right? But do you know what's telling this morning, right? Listen, Sean, I was very angry with a girl when I'm having to calm down and listen to that poor lady. How come no politician has come on in? And how come no representative from Angiada Chicana has come on to talk about this? Have you asked anybody like that?
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No, I haven't asked because I don't know that any member of Angiada Chicana right up to a chief super would be able to comment on one particular issue. They'll talk about how they manage resources and, you know, how they go about doing their job, but not specific cases, apart from Garda Press saying, as I said already, that, what was the words that we used? Detectives have identified persons of interest.
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I tell you now, everyone in mind, right? And every Garda and Clark knows exactly who those two people.
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Young guys are, right? No, this is not... These guys have... This is not their first time doing something like this. You don't just suddenly do something like this. Would you agree with that?
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Are you talking because you live in that general area?
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I know Balevalan quite well and the problems in Meadow Park and Balevalan are just as bad as they are in Mahan, if not worse. With anti-social behaviour...
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particular families causing trouble.
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So the guards know the families and the guards know the individuals. A lot of the time they're underage, I guess, right?
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Sim, o que ela estava dizendo earlier sobre a mudança, eu não sei, não sei, não sei, não sei, não sei, não sei, não sei, não sei, não sei, não sei, não sei, não sei, não sei, não sei, não sei, não sei, não sei,
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Do you know what I mean? Abuse from parents wouldn't stop members of Vanguardia Chaconne investigating a crime, though.
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No, no, but what I'm saying is the youngsters are looking at that. Oh, I see. And the parents are backing us up. We've done no wrong. And I'll bet you, Neil, whatever you like to bet, a thousand, a million euros, those youngsters are going around this morning bragging about that. Thinking they're the big men and they're great. We're on the radio and all that. Because...
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It's like a badge of honour, I suppose.
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It's like a badge of honour. But I tell you, if there was two young fellas that were walking down the road that would have to look after themselves, those two heroes wouldn't have done anything to them. They'd pick their targets.
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Yeah, OK, so to hold a 17-year-old, right, and to pin his arms behind his back where the second fella pummels him and punches him around the face is just nothing more than the work of a coward.
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Howard, man. And it's actually brutal. Imagine if that was your son. Imagine what that lady... So what should be done?
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It's all very good to say there should be more guardia and more boots on the ground. But you can't anticipate where a crime is going. Well, what should be done then?
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O que você já disse, there is common sense. We all know that. Parents are ultimately responsible for the actions of their children. If you bring a child up, like I always say to my young fellow, treat other people as you want to be treated yourself. And if someone asks them, walk away. Do you know what I mean? But you can't walk away from these people. Do you know? They're telling their parents about that, not telling their friends, but everyone knows what they are and their parents know who they are.
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I know exactly what you're saying about certain individuals and I have to be very careful about that as well because in past cases where I've gone into detail about different aspects of attacks and what have you, I've had broadcast complaints against me and I've been censured on the air and things like that and that would happen again, you know?
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E, agora, talvez a broadcasting live e a label live não tenha que ser visto também, porque... It seems that the perpetrators are being protected and the victims are being silenced. It's as simple as that, Neil.
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I just want to know whether parents are a lot more worried now if they have sons and daughters who are going out, whether it's to go to watch a film down in Maham Point or to get a bus into town to spend a bit of pocket money, you know?
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Of course they are. Of course they are. I mean, what you should do now is the team is go down to the security in Maham Point and Go around and talk to young people around the city or talk to people in security and shops.
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This is not an isolated incident. And as you say, when they're underage, there's absolutely no fear. They know the laws better than the laws.
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Okay, so what's stopping them then carrying knives and doing it with knives instead of their fists?
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Oh man, I was watching a thing on Channel 4 there the night about young flas over in Kent fighting with knives and a 17-year-old stabbed to death by a 16 and a 17-year-old. I mean, where do you go? I don't know, man. And the boys were online, right? They'd done it. And they were rapping about it.
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Yeah, it's that badge of honour, yeah. It's that bravado that comes with it.
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But the only way to sort that out, right, is... The parents are the problem, right? It starts with the parents. Everything starts in the home, right? Aggression comes from aggression. Like, if their parents are violent, they'll be violent. If their parents are good people, they'll be good people. Yeah.
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The law needs to change. As you say now, put the parents in jail. Put the parents in jail if the children won't go to jail. Those parents are not... But maybe they wouldn't give a damn either.
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Maybe they just couldn't care less.
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Yeah, jail doesn't bother these people.
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It gives them a chance to dry out and the whole lot and get back there.
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I don't know anywhere else. It's going to get worse because you can bet now, right, all the good people at Cork are listening to your show this morning, but as you said, you mentioned evil a while ago. The bad people are listening as well. E eles sabiam que esses tugs vão eventualmente... Eles vão ver com isso.
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Vamos ver. Vamos ver o que acontece, porque, finalmente, se eles são pessoas interessadas, eles vão ter um entrevista under caution.
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Can eu só bring up um caso que eu acho que há todo o tempo que não tem sido resolvido? A morte da pobreza outside de Savoyan Cork. Como é que está indo há três anos agora, não é? E eu não me lembro.
56:46
I saw the video. Everyone probably saw the video. That was on WhatsApp of what happened that night. And no one's been charged. That's interesting, actually.
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That's worth taking another look at to see if that active investigation is ongoing. It would be.
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That lady's only crime was she was a vulnerable addict. Do you know what I mean? And if she was a politician's daughter or um, um, um, um, um, um, um, um,
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You've got to remember that there were two individuals who came to the aid of her sons and that was a wonderful thing to do. And while there might be a great sense of community amongst some people in Mahan, it's been tarnished by others who couldn't give a damn and feel that the laws don't apply to them.
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In 2019, he was hit by a blue Mazda 6, which left the scene. I don't know what happened subsequent to that with regards to a guard investigation. Forgive me for that. But my thoughts are with the Higgins family this morning. And the other case that John mentioned then was the death of Vanessa O'Callaghan, who was assaulted outside the Savoy area. There were two arrests and a file is with the DPP on that one. So that might come as an interesting update there for John who was thinking whatever happened. Well, two arrests, file with the DPP and we'll have to see what happens next with regards to the DPP's decision.
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Back to the phone lines we go. Lucy, good morning.
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Bom dia, Neil, como é você?
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Eu estou muito, obrigado. Você estava ouvindo o meu conversamento com Margot e eu estou muito feliz para falar com você.
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Ela estava falando sobre o ataque dos sons e Mahan. Sim. Sim. Sim. Sim. Sim. Sim. Sim. Sim. Sim.
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So basically, myself and my husband and my daughter were at the cinema last night in Blackpool. And there was, I suppose, maybe about 20 kids between the ages of around 12 and 14. It was the Spider-Man show. And they just ruined it for the most of the people who were there. They were talking, they were shouting, they were laughing, they were on their phones. They were throwing popcorn, all sorts of things, which is nothing now, of course, compared to what poor Margaret Sons went through.
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But what I'm ringing in about is, and as John was saying, there's one thing that would solve all of this. It's one word, consequence. And that's like, there is no consequence for bad behaviour anymore. And as John rightly pointed out, it starts in the home. Like, those kids now in Blackpool last night, because I turned around to my husband after and said, oh my God, their parents would be ashamed. I kind of said, if they thought this is what their children ought to. And as my husband says, no, they wouldn't. They couldn't give it to us. And I was kind of like, yeah, I suppose.
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So we're talking, using the phones, laughing, coming and going, shouting and roaring. Well, did anybody...
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Sim, sim, sim, sim, a staff did come in and out several times, asked the lads to stay off their phones, you know, to kind of cop themselves on, to keep down. Then another, one of the staff members came in and two girls were asked to leave and I went out to the bathroom at one stage and several of them were just like running around the kind of the foyer area outside and Just messing.
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In fairness to the staff now, if they reprimanded, corrected them, told them to cop on and took two young girls out, at least they did do something.
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Oh, absolutely. I have no complaint against Blackpool or the staff. Absolutely no complaint. My point is just kind of going back to...
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No, I'm not. Listen, I'm not having an argument. I'm saying that a lot of the time you don't hear of any interventions. I've heard in the past of a member of the public going out and complaining and nothing being done about it. So in this case... You know when you look at 12 to 14-year-olds, that's a brand new film that any 12, 13 or 14-year-old would love to go to and it would be a privilege to go to it, right?
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Absolutely, yes. But here's the problem with a 12 or 13 or 14-year-old. They have no attention span anymore. They can't concentrate for long periods of time anymore, a lot of them.
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Sim, é engraçado que você diz, porque eu acho que foi um comentário que eu disse para o meu irmão, eu disse, eles não semão como se comportar e como se sentar ainda. Você sabe? Eu sou uma mãe e eu conheço, desde que meus filhos saíram de casa, o que eles estão fazendo, o que eles estão fazendo, e eu tenho sido capaz de confiar no conhecimento. Agora, eu não sei. Ninguém que conhece me e conhece meus filhos vão agree. Eu tenho sido capaz de confiar no conhecimento que eles estão comportando.
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And the reason is because if they're not, and I find out about it, you know, there will be consequences. And that's the thing. Like, there will be consequences from their mother, their parents, their father. There will be consequences. And I mean, like, if you go back to Duncan years ago, my mother used to say to me, she said, oh my God, she said, se eu cameo de casa de escola e eu me disse que o meu filho me disse que o meu filho me disse que o meu filho me disse que ele disse que ele disse que ele disse que ele disse que ele disse que ele disse que ele disse que ele disse que ele disse que ele disse que ele disse que ele disse que ele disse que ele disse que ele disse que ele disse que ele disse que ele disse You can start with parenting.
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You can start when they're six weeks old, six months old, six years old. There's different levels of respect that they need to show. There's different levels of behaviour that should be accepted. And if they're not behaving properly, they should have faced consequences. And now the parents should face consequences. Now I know you might see, people might be saying, oh my God, who's this communist?
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No, no, I mean, listen, parenting doesn't end when a child is 12 or 13 or 14. I think it never probably ends, to be honest with you.
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Eu was about to say, it doesn't end when they're 18 either.
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But tell me, what was it like when the lights came on? Imagine cleaning up after them.
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Oh God, it was embarrassing. It was just like, we were sitting at the edge of our row and I looked to my right, there was about 10 seats in the row. So there's about seven inside of me sitting They were just destroyed. Just popcorn, bottles, drinks, those booster seat things that those kids sit on, thrown around the place.
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Clearly there was no parental supervision. They were just allowed in to do what you want.
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Not at all.
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And was your viewing experience ruined?
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It was really, to be honest, and like my daughter is a huge Marvel fan and, you know, there was certain, you know, anyone who's a real Marvel fan knows that they're like, there's plots and there's all sorts of things that they're looking for in the film.
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That's the most, you know, that's one of the most annoying points is that you went out, you spent good money.
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Sim, sim, você sabe, você sabe, você sabe, você sabe, você sabe, você sabe, você sabe, você sabe, você sabe, você sabe, eu sei, você sabe, você sabe, eu sei, você sabe, você sabe, você sabe, você sabe, você sabe, você sabe, você sabe, você sabe, você sabe, você sabe, você sabe, você sabe, você sabe, você sabe, você sabe, você sabe, você sabe, você sabe, você sabe, você sabe, você sabe, você sabe, você sabe, você sabe, você sabe, você sabe, você sabe, It starts in the parenting, and if the parents aren't bothering, then that's what's coming out in society.
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Did you say anything to them? I did. I just asked them just to quiet them down a couple of times. I just kind of said, you know, behave, be quiet.
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Did they react to that?
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The boys did settle a little bit. A little bit.
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Now, as I said... See, I think that they're not bad kids. I think they just needed supervision and they needed somebody with them because, you know, you get a group of them together, they'll just... They'll just... You know, one will push the other and then before you know it, there's something going on and they have no attention span. They can only watch short periods of time.
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Yeah, people have often kind of said to me, like, ah, but your girls are different. Your girls are great. And I'm like, no, no, no, no. Every child is born... They're all born innocent. They're all great. I love kids. I have great time for kids. And I guarantee if I took any one of those kids out separately yesterday, had a chat with him, he'd probably been the loveliest young lad. But like... They need to also be taught by their parents how to behave when there's girls.
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Absolutely, because going to the cinema is not a cheap experience when you add on all of the bits and pieces in your evening and everybody else's was ruined.
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And to be fair, like to Blackpool, I thanked the staff when we went out because, you know, they were kind of youngish as well, you know, doing their part-time jobs. And so to thank them for intervening and they did actually like, they were like, thank you for, you know.
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Yeah, nobody offered you a complimentary to come back and see it again.
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No, no, I was going to go and say that as well. As I was saying, I went out to them and I thanked them. And there was a girl there, I didn't get her name. And she actually went off and she came back out with three passes for myself, my husband. That's what I'm saying. I have no issue with that.
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That's just brilliant.
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They handled it as best they could. All right. My issue is just kind of, you know, like teach the kids properly at home. And, you know, like I just think that would solve a lot. And I mean, that goes through our whole society, whether it be, you know, vandalism out in the streets. Whether it be... I mean, you could go all the way up to... I could be here all day talking. You could take it all the way to the level of politicians. There is no consequence.
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Politicians feck up every day of the week. There is no consequence.
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OK, thanks for that. Much obliged. Cheers, Lucy. Text 0868104106. Pick up the phone on 0818104106. I think a lot of the time maybe we're in too much of a rush for our children to grow up too quickly, whether that's putting them up on e-scooters at 14 or, you know what I mean, maybe it's all happening too fast for them. Everyone's in such a rush to adulthood and maturity. Aidan, good morning.
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Good morning, Neil. How are you?
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Good, thank you. All of this started with the attack on Margot's two boys. Go ahead.
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I was just commenting there that, you know, when you say what could happen or what did happen, I was just saying the facts... Otherwise, you people would be thinking always like you're suggesting of what could have happened to them even more. So they got a bad enough doing off.
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Well, I'm just suggesting that maybe the next time we hear about this, somebody's been stabbed in the gut.
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Yes, what I'm saying is that these random attacks that happen, they happen occasionally. And if you're unlucky... You're the recipient of that. And they're to scum, these people. When you say about parents being put into jail, where do the kids go when the parents go to jail?
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Where do the kids go when the parents go to jail? They go to care?
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No, if they're held responsible.
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I mean, like when we're talking about playing the parents, you can't. And if you charge them, you put them in. Where do the kids do? Put the lads...
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No, I'm not saying you'd send a... I don't think anybody is saying that you send a parent to jail. Say, for instance, the two thugs are found guilty, right? And they're underage, whatever the case may be. They get a juvenile caution and that's it. Should they tear that up? They couldn't give a damn about that. But if the parent's got a 500 euro fine... e não pagou e não pagou e não pagou e não pagou e não pagou e não pagou e não pagou e não pagou e não pagou e não pagou e não pagou Mas você está dizendo em seu texto que esses são random attacks.
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Eles acontecem todo o tempo. Se você é umlucky, você vê um de um, você tem um contra um, e isso é um bad luck, não é?
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É umlucky. Eu, um bad luck é um diferente de colocar isso. Porque, eu, os dois lads, os dois irmãos, eles eram 17 e 15. Eles nunca viram isso em 17 ou 15 anos de sua vida. Provavelmente não. E aí, eles apenas estavam no lugar. Metam esses lads.
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And that was it, if you understand me. I do, but if either you or I were their fathers, we wouldn't have the opinion that you have right now. We would be incensed with anger.
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No, I would.
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I'm talking about society.
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Would you not be angry and want somebody found guilty for it, prosecuted? Of course I do.
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Of course I would. But I mean, I was attacked when I was, you know, random attacks in my time, not to the extent that I was two lads or the two brothers there. That was shocking. But I'm just saying, these things happen if you happen to be unlucky. I'm out to get into life so far. Mas eu poderia ser um sorte de ir lá em Cork, você sabe?
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Ok, então um dos pontos que você está fazendo, antes de que eu vou fazer, é que eu deveria só reportar o que aconteceu, não o que pode acontecer depois, quando o que acontece acontece, é isso?
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Não, mas você disse que eles poderiam ser mortos, e que é uma possibilidade, mas se você reportar os factos, Other parents are going to be listening to this and they'll be saying, look what could have happened. They would anyway. Any parent would be going through their mind thinking of that. And then when that's thrown out in the media, everyone will say, the kids can't go. You'd have no one on the streets because these scumbags take over them.
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I'm curious as to whether, say, for instance, people living around the Mahan Black Rock area, because we were talking about that area this morning, are a little bit worried at all about their sons or daughters going out with a bit of pocket money to spend it in Mahan Point, as an example, or to get on a bus and going into the city. That's all I'm trying to find out as to whether or not they're aware of the possible risk involved in that. That's all.
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No, I know that, but no one would go out like everyone worries about their teenagers.
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Yeah, but I'm just trying to alert them to the possibility that this could happen to their son next.
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I know you're right.
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Broken nose, black eyes, damaged eyeball, head injury, bad concussion, loss of memory. That's shocking. Yeah, that's all.
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But what I'm saying is those two lads didn't say, we know those two lads, they just randomly picked him off the street, probably looked... Wonderful. And done, mate, done then.
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Yeah. Okay. All right. Random acts all of the time. Thanks for that. Appreciate it, Aidan. Text 0868104106. That text line is also available for WhatsApp voice notes. It's the same text number, but on WhatsApp. And here's one in already on thugs of a different, well, I suppose thugs in general from what we're talking about this morning.
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Hi, guys. I'm not going to go on air there now. What happened to those two lads? Absolutely horrific. But I was wondering if you heard... I actually saw a post on Facebook.
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It was a father who was looking to know if anybody knew the people that attacked his daughter outside Merchants Quay. She was also waiting A bus, a 202 bus, I'm not sure if it was going to the north side or coming down to Mahan, but there was four guys, I think, it was four people, not actually, I don't know if he said males or females, I think he said... Two were of an ethnic background and the other two were white and they thought his daughter was from some pride group and because of that they attacked her.
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Now the post was if anybody knew them there was a cash reward because their parents needed to be taught how to actually parent their kids and he needed to speak to the parents. I don't know if you saw that on Facebook. Sorry, no, I can't find it. I don't know if it was taken down or not. But I did see it the other day. Yeah, just wondering. Again, you know, kids attacking kids. I think it's awful.
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A black eye, damage to the eyeball. I've seen the photographs, they're horrific. A head injury, bad concussion, he was bleeding out on the floor. And she said to me, there are good people in the world and only for them my son could be dead. She said, like the people that stopped to help while my son was bleeding out on the floor. And of course, one of the big injuries, of course, is his nose. I mean, you have no idea how badly his nose was broken. And I won't go into the detail of that. It's just, and I'm quite sure that Kelly... who was one who was the herself and her partner came to the aid of the two lads.
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I'm quite sure that she got a fright when she saw the injuries as well. Kelly, good morning.
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Morning, how are you?
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Thank you so much on behalf of Margot for your intervention. What do you know of what happened on Friday evening?
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So do you know what, now I was actually collecting a takeaway with my partner and we were driving home, well I was driving home and I just spotted these, there was nobody else on the road and I just spotted these two boys and I actually thought they were drinking, like they looked drunk because the boy was trying to pick his brother up off the floor but he kept falling. So I was like to my partner, I was like, they look drunk but when I saw the blood I just stopped the car straight away and I jumped out and the first thing I'd done was ring the ambulance My boyfriend put him into the recovery position straight away just to make sure that he wasn't choking on his blood or anything.
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So that was what we'd done at the start and my boyfriend was just brilliant. He stayed with him for the whole time, made sure he was on his side, was pinching the top of his nose when he could. I was just so into the conversation with the girl and for the amblings.
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someone could do that to two boys and they look so harmless Margaret said to me that you used you went away and you got towels and used your baby blanket in the car yeah I did so in the back of the car I had all my daughter's blankets and I had two beach towels in the boot that we actually bought that we never used so I was just like oh my god it just was so happy that they were there you know I just grabbed anything I could see really
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Mopped up the blood with your baby's blanket.
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Yeah.
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I mean, I don't want to go into too much detail, obviously, because people will be traumatised, but we're talking about a lot of blood.
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I can't even describe. Like, I actually, if you put the boy in front of me, I don't know who the boy is or what he looks like because I couldn't.
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não era o que ele não era coerente?
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O que ele não era coerente? O que ele não era coerente? O que ele era coerente?
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O que ele era coerente? O que ele era coerente? O que ele era coerente? O que ele era coerente?
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Ele não conseguiu fazer nada. Ele estava dizendo que eles estavam indo para casa, eles estavam apenas indo para conseguir algo pequeno e eles só foram atacados. E então eu acho que era um panique para ver se se pudessemos fazer a mamãe e a dad e quem era olhando para ele. Ambulância chegou? Sim, eles chegaram até 45 minutos depois.
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So does your partner have some form of first aid training in the sense that he kind of knew about the prone position?
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Yes, he does. He does, yeah, he does.
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So he was well able to do it anyway, thank God that he knew what he was doing, you know.
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Like not everybody would stop, Kelly.
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Well, do you know what? I just, I don't know, is it just because it's bred into me, but I just couldn't.
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heart to leave somewhere on the floor like that and when I saw the age of him it just broke my heart altogether because oh I have my own daughter and if something was happening to her I'd be absolutely I'd be strong I would Well this lad right has no
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Well, they say short-term memory loss and hopefully it is short-term. He can't remember being in Mahon Point. He can't remember doing the odd jobs in his grannies. He can't remember the attack and he can't remember sitting his leaving certificate.
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Can you believe that? That's just disgusting. And you know what? The way I found him, like, I just can't explain the way I found him. Like, I wouldn't be surprised.
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Are you from the area Kelly?
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I am, yeah I am Ok, because over and over Margot spoke about how kind people can be and she's including you in that lucky that you stopped to help someone in need and calling for help and intervening but she says that Mahan Point or Mahan is getting gradually worse and worse and more dangerous do you have any thoughts on that?
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Oh, I do. Yeah, it is 100%. It's getting very rough. And it's getting younger and younger. The age is getting rougher, you know?
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So... It's a disgrace, really, like...
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Well, I thought what you did was absolutely terrific. And you made a huge difference. And it was lovely for the family to know that somebody was with the two lads after this appalling attack. And I know that Margot wanted to know your name. So we know you as Kelly, of course. That's your name. And your partner's name?
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Kieran.
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Kieran and Kelly.
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Maybe Margot might like to talk to you in person on the phone. Would you be okay with that?
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Yeah, yeah, yeah.
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She just wants to say thanks. She just wants to say thanks.
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No, brother. Yeah.
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Tchau, tchau.
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She's six months.
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Alright, okay. Well, I'm sure they have a high chair inside in Cockbull. They give you a baby bowl in Cockbull and you can enjoy some of their great chicken, alright?
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Thank you so much.
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Not at all. There's no need. Well, I know that, but it's always nice to be nice. And you enjoy it, Kelly, and well done. Thank you for getting involved like you did. Thank you. Well done.
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Thanks.
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Take care, take care. And again, thank you to Mags and everybody at Cockbull who are always there when we need them. We support them and you should support them and they support us. And that's the way the world goes round, isn't it? Text 0868-104-106. Pick up the phone on 0818-104-106. We need a group of strong men to sort thugs out, don't we? The Gardaí will only come after the crime. Yeah, but that's not a criticism of Vanguardia Chacana. They can only arrive after the crime. They can't anticipate crime. I mean, it's made a huge difference in this city. For sure it's had made a big difference with regards to when you see patrols around the city streets.
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So much so that they're driving criminality out of the city to other areas now. E certamente, droga-dealing. E certamente, pessoas que estão maraudindo em grupos. Eu vejo eles ao tempo. Quando o tempo é bom e o sol é shining, o top é off. E eu não sei onde eles estão indo, de A a B, procurando o que eles estão procurando, mas eles estão no city. Estão, eu sei que eles estão, mas eu ainda sei, mas eu ainda vejo membros de Vengarda-Chaconne.
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e a businesses tell me it's making a difference. Anyway, the Gardaí will only come after the crime. Courts will make it worse as intimidation will be brought on a family if they are part of a witness in a court case. The only way to dish out is street justice. It's the only language these people understand. And again, I read that out without actually having any notion of agreeing with it, because before you know it, you've got vigilante groups beating everybody up. And then before you know it, you've got wrong people being accused of crime and them being beaten up as well. e o Guy de Chicano vai ser muito feliz com isso.
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The punishment that went on back in the day was over the top but they went the full 360 now and they can't touch anybody because they're too young we hear. It's nonsense and the person that stands in court with them has to take the punishment if the culprit won't says Anthony. Again as in if you can't get the child get the parents. I'm so sorry to hear this lovely mum Margot on the air. I drove buses on that route and our kids who I know were always so polite always thanking the driver and he even gave me sweets and shared some of their conkers. . . .
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Listening to you on about the assaults of the boy, there's one thing, certain solution. Punishment, fight fire with fire. Believe me, they'll never hit anyone again. Guaranteed.
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Yeah, I mean, and who would met out or mete out the punishment, though? I'm from the Mahan area myself. I know the family. We all know the family. I can promise you one thing. If anyone down there thought they were brave enough to lay a finger on either of my children, they'd be left without fingers. There'd be no guards stop me. I can't blame that mother for wanting to take matters into her own hands. Well, I think that she might well be talking about a civil action as opposed to anything else. But anyway, these are uncultivated bullies down there. They should be named and shamed.
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If they think they want to act like men, then name them.
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Fair play to the older brother for defending his younger brother. Those children are cowards, bullies and brats. And their parents, if they have shame, should be ashamed of themselves. Text 0868 104 106.
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ou leading results for college. But she's working part and she got a job in the south infembrary. She gave up her other job in June to start in July because she passed everything and she's still waiting on guard clearance. And it seems it's all over the hospital. The hospital have the staff but they can't employ them until they get the guard clearance. But my problem is she came out of a hospital with guard clearance. Why do she have to have guard clearance again?
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She came out of one hospital that she was working in.
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Going into South Infermary and she still has to have guard clearance.
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Okay. I have to admit, I'm not a hugely au fait with the vetting process. That would seem kind of bizarre to me. You would think that you have guard of vetting. It should stand up if you're moving.
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Yeah, but it's not yet. It's the whole hospital. She keeps bringing them and she was told it's very slow. Every department in the hospital has staff, but they can't.
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Não, não, não, não, não, não, não, não, não, não, não, não, não, não, não, não, não,
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Yeah, there are lots of jobs that would need it.
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And all those things, yes. And I understand that.
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You're volunteering with children or working with children or vulnerable adults, nursing homes.
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Maybe elderly people and whatever, even people doing home health have to get better.
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Yeah, okay.
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But what I'm trying to say is why is the delay? These children are coming out of school now finished and they want part-time jobs while they're going to college. And they can't take them up.
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Não, não, não, não, não, não, não, não, não, não, não, não,
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It says, guarded vetting process typically in Ireland takes 15 to 18 working days, but at the moment it could be 35 to 40 working days or several weeks longer because of the high volume of applications. Is that your understanding of it?
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Yeah, but like, surely, but God, you shouldn't be waiting that long. I mean, like if there's kids out there now that, you know, come back to school, should they be back to school before they be vetted?
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She'll be back in college.
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She'll be, but it doesn't matter anyway. Her hours in college and the job she had.
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She could keep the job. It says here in the independence, significant delays in Garda vetting for HSE staff applying to work with children and vulnerable adults. Taoiseach says he will examine if government can streamline the checking process. And that's on the 24th of June. So nothing's changed.
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Yeah, but she gave up a job in June, the start in July is supposed to be.
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But is it not the case that if you get Garda vetted, it lasts for three years before it needs to be renewed again?
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This is where I'm saying, like, I can't understand it.
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How long has it taken so far, do you know?
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Well, I don't. I don't, Neil. Because, like, she was Garda vetted before she started in St. Fimberg. She's there a couple of years.
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No, I'm asking you when, you know, she had to be vetted again. When was that? When did that process start?
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June.
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June.
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And this is the start of August.
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She passed everything. She passed everything, her health and the whole lot, only waiting. She got back on to them now last week and they said they're still waiting for the Garda vetting, but it's not just that department, it's the whole hospital.
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It's saying that in the Independent article, yeah. But she hasn't changed employers. She's still employed by the same HSE.
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No, it's different employers. Is it? She's working for the South this time, whereas in Finbars it was an agency.
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Yeah, but it's still, okay, the agency.
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Yeah, I know, I understand, I understand what you're saying, which would be my point as well, but it's just, it's very frustrating and to see there that she was earning money and now she's earning nothing, it's very wrong for her too, you know what I mean? Okay.
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Garda Sheconer say that for 85% of applicants received, the current turnaround time is 18 business days from the date received. You're clearly not included in that 18 day turnaround though. No, no. They got 175 applications in the first three months of this year alone. 2,000 a day. Mother of God, that's a massive figure though, isn't it?
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Mas isso só vai mostrar a quantidade de pessoas que gostam de trabalhar, mas não podem trabalhar.
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É uma verdadeira, que é uma verdadeira.
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Eu me pergunto.
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Você está me pergunto? Você está me pergunto? Você está me pergunto? Porque a história que eu estou lendo são meses altos a estação.
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Sim, não, não, não. Eu me pergunto porque, eu me pergunto, eu me pergunto. Ela sempre tinha o dinheiro e era capaz de fazer coisas. O plano era para comprar um carro e o que era. E agora, ela está tudo bem.
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So, she hasn't worked since then, which is June.
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Since June, which she gave up because she was starting a new job.
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And she thought she'd be good to go.
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She thought she'd be working, good to go, yeah. No, she was going on holidays first. Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah. She was due to go on.
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She was due to... So, she's had no source of income while she waits around for Garda Venn.
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No, she had nothing, no, no, nothing. Which is very unfair for a girl that wants to work.
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I mean, we all accept guarda vetting is important, absolutely.
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Oh, yes, but she's got it already, Lee.
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I know, I know that, I know that, I know that.
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This is the part I don't understand. It makes me very angry when you hear people saying, oh, they don't want to walk today. They do, but it's all this paperwork and all this.
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I think you need it now.
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You do need it, particularly in specific jobs.
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No, I do, I do, I do.
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One of the very important issues with Garda vetting, and how can I paraphrase this so that it's fair to everybody, could be individuals who are coming in from overseas to work here. I'm not painting everybody with the same brush, but you would need Garda vetting. Some may well be coming here that have never been vetted anywhere and they could be going to the country and we don't know where they're from. This is one of the reasons why Garda vetting is important with regards to people working, say, in healthcare. To know, did they work in it?
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And childcare.
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And childcare, yeah.
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So it's very important. And any job, really, at the moment. But like, you know, it's very hard as a grandmother to see her, you know, if they're like, and she friends and the friends are working.
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And they have money and she doesn't. She must be also bored. Yeah.
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It's heartbreaking. It's actually heartbreaking.
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Let me get an update as to where they're at with that and see if other people are also suffering.
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I'll do something about it.
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Alright, okay. Thanks Sheila. Thanks for getting involved. Thank you for coming on here. Appreciate it. Anybody else in a similar situation, Garda Vetting, text 0868 104 106. Back after 11.
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And there are many of them still to give away. Meanwhile, let me get back to some voice notes. A lot now coming in on Garda vetting and how slow it is or whether it's important or needed or not. I think we'd all agree that Garda vetting is very important. Could it be more efficient? Could it be more streamlined and faster? I would think absolutely.
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Oi Neil, em relação ao guarda veting, se você move de um lugar, vou te dar um exemplo, se você for coaching em Kerry e você move de Cork, você tem que ter vetted de novo, porque algo poderia ter acontecido no Kerry Clube e o Cork Clube não sabia sobre isso, então é basicamente isso, quando você move, você tem que ter vetted de novo, obrigado.
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Why do people have to get guarda vetted every time they move into another job is because if they had done a crime in that job, it has to be, it's been reported again. You cannot take your guarda vetted from one place to another. You have to start all over again because if they had done something in a hospital or in child care, it'd be put on their record so they wouldn't be able to get the job. That's why you have to get guarda vetted every time you change your job.
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Mas é causando um monte de caos, os delays, em termos que está processado, certo? Em caso de uma garota que quitou um trabalho para começar outro trabalho, que foi no início de junho. Não tem dinheiro, não tem dinheiro, todas as outras pessoas têm dinheiro, e ela gosta de fazer um trabalho e também tem um trabalho.
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And on top of everything else, then you have all of our tourists who are here driving rental cars and driving on the left side for the first time. And they have the fear of God in them. Doing 40 kilometres an hour when it would have been fine to be doing 80. But anyway, don't get me started. Text 0868 104 106. Pick up the phone on 0818 104 106. With regards to the attack on Margot's sons, we did contact Garda Press this morning. In fact, Seamus asked an extensive amount of questions. He asked them about that attack. Alleged assault. I say alleged assault because we know that it was an assault but with regards to the criminal aspect of it, that's under investigation.
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So we asked if they could add anything to that. We also asked about the public opening hours of Blackrock Mahangarda Station because it's very unclear. You read different opening hours and E aí, e aí, e aí, e aí, e aí, .
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And Gardaí said they're asking for witnesses to contact Blackrock Garda Station on 453-6690. 453-6690. Sadly and unfortunately, we rang that number this morning at around about 10 past quarter past nine and it wasn't answered. Text 0868-104-106. Pick up the phone on 0818-104-106. Lots more calls, texts and different conversations after the break.
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They just can't concentrate for long periods of time. Many kids know, unfortunately. Anyway, from extravision and people with fines and books going back to the library 150 years late. Also, don't forget you have to rewind the video before returning.
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They fined people 50 cent or 50 pence if they watched the film and stopped it and didn't rewind it back to the start.
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Talk about big brother is watching. Forget extra vision. Bring back the guys who rented dodgy videos from the boot of their cars. Now, those were the days, says Pa. And what would constitute a dodgy video, Pa? Do explain. Morning. KC brought a whole load of DVDs into some shop and like loads and loads of them. And he got 28 euro for his troubles. This chap, Desi, says they took 126 DVDs and PlayStation games in great condition into CEX.
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Eu não sei como você pronuncia isso. É sexo ou kex? É uma ou a outra. Ele broughte-se em todos, 126 de eles, DVDs e PS games, into CEX e o Grand Parade. E eles disseram que ia me 9 euros para todos eles. 126 DVDs e Playstation games. 9 euros. Um dos Playstation games seria 50 ou 60 euros.
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I told them that was insulting and no thank you. I took them all away, walked over to St. Vincent de Paul on the North Main Street and gave everything to them for nothing. I got more satisfaction out of doing that than I would have out of CEX's miserable nine euro offer, says Desi. I was in actually in town there recently and it was in one of the charity shops just for an old browse. And at the front of it, it's all clothing, right? And, you know, footwear and things like that. Like jeans and women's clothes and stuff. And at the back then they have books, vinyl, DVDs, VHS videos and everything.
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But could I find one decent album or one half decent film album I think a lot of the time people are offloading stuff to charity shops that nobody would want to buy or spend any money on. Anyway, my sister was going out with a fella and his father had a video rental shop. And anytime she went into the shop, her father would say, oh, I have that top shelf video for you. Wink, wink. Or he would say, you have that video from the top shelf out for a long time.
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It must be a good one. Wink, wink. Top shelf being blue movies. She'd be mortified every time he did it, as he would say it in front of people. She never rented blue movies, I have to say. Anyway, isn't she married to the fella now for over 20 years? Keep those stories coming.
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Where relationships begin, as the fella says. And I suppose... To be fair to Extra Vision staff, and Imer of course was one of those soldiers back in the day, if you didn't rewind the VHS video, they'd have to do it. I have one particular staff member just on duty rewinding all of them. She says, we used to also have to separate all of the DVDs that were brought back in the wrong boxes.
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E aí He was chatting with people about whether friendship can stand the test of time. When values change, is there ever the right decision to have to walk away from someone who no longer kind of marries up with your views and, you know, your beliefs in life?
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As in, you know, they may not longer share your ideals, as in friendships just tire. But sometimes, of course, we know that we should move and move away and park some friendships. But do we always have the courage to do it? So you covered an awful lot of ground. Here it is from the streets of Cork at the back end of last week on friendship.
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What makes a good friend?
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Someone you can ring when you're at your worst and they're just there for you.
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Do you have many friends from your childhood?
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I still have a few friends from primary school and then I have a good friend from college, two or three of those. I wouldn't have a lot of friends but the ones I have I know I can rely on. Do you know? I think it's better to have maybe a few friends that you can ring or you can... Você sabe, quando times são difíceis, você pode ficar com vocês. É melhor ter mais bons amigos do que muitos amigos que você não vê.
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E é a coisa que você tem, quando você tem tantos amigos, você vai se derrubar de alguns deles.
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Você não se realize, realmente, como feliz você é para ter bons amigos em vida, porque eles significam muito.
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Você acha que é mais difícil agora, como adulto, fazer amigos do que quando você era jovem?
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I think it depends on your life circumstances. If you're out working and stuff, maybe you're, depending on who you're meeting every day, you know.
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Or is that a question I need to ask a man?
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Yeah, maybe.
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I think women definitely have more friends than men.
107:28
Oh God, I don't know what to say here. I guess someone who's going to be there for you, you know, through thick and thin, you know, good and bad times. Do you have many friends? I go down to the hospital for various things, you know, I'm going through a treatment at the moment, like, and I have a lot of people at the moment. que estão olhando para mim e darei para mim, se eu precisar, se eu precisar, se eu precisar, se eu precisar.
107:44
E a maioria dos eram de seus filhos, ou eram eles laterais? Sim, sim, uma mistura.
107:48
Eu ainda tenho um bom neto de amigos de minha filha, como nós ficamos todos juntos, nós ficamos juntos, nós ficamos juntos, nós ficamos juntos, nós ficamos juntos, nós ficamos juntos, nós ficamos juntos, nós ficamos juntos, nós ficamos juntos, nós ficamos juntos, nós ficamos juntos, nós ficamos juntos, nós ficamos juntos, nós ficamos juntos, nós ficamos juntos, nós ficamos juntos, nós ficamos juntos, nós ficamos juntos, nós ficamos juntos, nós ficamos juntos, nós ficamos juntos, nós ficamos juntos, nós ficamos juntos juntos, nós ficamos juntos juntos, nós ficamos juntos juntos, nós ficamos juntos juntos, nós ficamos juntos juntos, nós ficamos juntos juntos, nós ficamos juntos juntos,
108:11
To make friends and maintain those friends.
108:13
Yeah, well look, I don't know, I'm kind of an outgoing person, so to me, it's not that really hard to make friends, especially through work and that. But as I said, the core of my friends are still from when I was younger, you know.
108:22
Have you ever had to kind of lose somebody from the friendship group that your kind of ideals kind of drifted and you weren't on the same page?
108:31
I wouldn't say like that. I just feel like, you know, as people get older, I suppose they settle down, they have kids, you know, various different things in their life. That's kind of when you move away from them.
108:39
We have a good six of us that are pretty close. We've been close since the first year. It's a good thing to have friends like that that you can trust and always have a good time with and just be yourself with people as well. And how do you maintain that then?
108:53
Texting, meeting up. He's only from here, I'm from somewhere near here and just meet up every two or three days and text. Even if it's just like a sentence a day, just kind of keeping up with people. Okay. It's a good thing to do.
109:05
And do you think it's harder in adult life to make friends?
109:10
You have to be more intentional about this Yeah I'd say so Because obviously when you're kids When you're younger It's like oh I want to play with the same toy as you It's like you're friends then But like obviously when you're older It's more like everyone has different interests And different people do different things It's still possible But it would definitely be harder You seem to be great buddies You and me We're just wondering What makes a good friendship?
109:31
Good sense of humour and good fun Yeah Yeah absolutely Would you have many friends now from growing up?
109:37
No I'd have a few A long time ago growing up, you see.
109:43
Not at all, I'd say about 10, 15 years, is it?
109:46
Yeah, but five.
109:48
Do you find that it's harder to make friends as an adult than you were when you were a child?
109:53
No, I think clubs are good.
109:55
You join a club or something.
109:56
Yeah, but I think it's actually easier now. I think it's easier when you're an adult to make friends with kids. I think it's harder when you're kids. O que é o que é isso?
110:04
O que é isso?
110:20
Do you reckon it's harder to make friends in adult life than it is when you're younger?
110:25
Nowadays, no, I think yes, because they're getting more selfish now and people are busy. And there's no such thing as going to your neighbours anymore, whereas before you went to make sure everyone was okay.
110:37
Over the years, have you had to cut somebody out of your life because they didn't kind of align with you? Yeah.
110:43
There's a time in your life and you realise that you're being used. Você tem que cortar as coisas. Mas você pode ser polite ainda, mas ao mesmo tempo, como você diz, você não seria chamado a mug.
110:56
Como você faz isso?
110:59
A distância de você, realmente. Você pode ser polite se eles quiserem, mas não mais ir atrás de mim, como eles usavam.
111:08
I think that's amazing. It covered so many different topics and subtopics there, not just friends and friendships, but neighbourliness. That was amazing. And, you know, you've got to wonder whether, I often wonder with regards to some of the questions I put amongst others to Dr. Richard Hogan, the family psychotherapist at the Therapy Institute. Richard, good morning. Good morning, Neil. I'm amazed what people had to say there. Many of them have core friends from when they were younger. Another chap says that he works at it and they would text to meet up regularly and it's something that you have to be, you know, kind of set up kind of a regime and intentional about.
111:44
But is it easier for men or women? The reason I ask that question, as you move through the decades, I always believed that women were better at making and maintaining friendships. And that men, we just let it slide and we actually lose friends as we get older.
112:01
I think you're dead right, Neil. I think that's a great insight. I think that's what will be borne out in my clinic working with this particular aspect of life. I think men in their 40s, in their mid-40s can really struggle to hold on to their friendships. And I see it with my wife and their friends and I see it borne out in my clinic that women might be better at that intentionality of meeting up. And it might not even seem like an intentionality. They just do it. Whereas men I struggle with that. And I meet an awful lot of loneliness in my clinic, Neil. You'd be surprised with how many men lose friendships. And by the time they're moving towards late 40s, they've lost all their friends along the way.
112:35
And it's such an important thing that you hear from your Voxbox there. Friends and holding on to your friends and the ones that are important, you know, the ones that are meaningful generally, I think, stay with you as you go through life. But it does require a bit of work, I think. And I think men might sometimes feel, this is the word I would say with working men, they might feel a bit needy by putting that message out. They might fear their rejection of putting that message out. Nobody responds to it saying, anyone want to go do something at the weekend? And they get nothing back there. And so they feel a little bit of fear around that. And I don't think maybe women struggle so much with that as much as we do.
113:05
Is it because everybody else is just so busy or they've settled down or they have children and their weekends, they have commitments and things?
113:14
Bem, eu acho que é isso, você vê. E aí, depois do seu mid-40s, você tem essa existencial crise. É isso, você sabe? É isso minha carreira? É isso o que eu vou fazer? É há alguma oportunidade aqui para me mudar? Cano eu chegar além de onde eu estou? É uma chance de chegar e ter uma promoção?
113:29
And so we get consumed with things and there are kids are moving out of childhood into adolescence and they're rejecting us a little bit more and they're looking at us as... So you're saying there's an element of kind of almost like shame there when men get older and maybe some women as well, that they don't want to be around their friends because friends might determine they're disappointed in their... Well, I think that probably can be...
113:52
Their achievements or lack of achievements of their job. Their lack of achievements, yeah, and the fact that they haven't achieved what they wanted to achieve. And so when you feel that kind of nadir, that's a little dip in your mental health and you feel low about yourself. Generally, we tend to kind of isolate ourselves. We don't tend to kind of go out more. We don't tend to reach out to meet our friends. And so that bit of shame can kind of push us back and make us a little bit more isolated in our lives and narrow our social world down a little bit. And I think it brings an awful lot of sadness, unspoken sadness, you know, that phrase about quiet desperation.
114:24
I think a lot of men live in that space and never gets articulated or never gets expressed because they see it as a real weakness or a sense of failure to express that.
114:32
Is it a case as well that it's about texting now or WhatsAppping or Instagramming, you know, and that's replaced what would have been physical in-person friendships?
114:44
I would say you're absolutely right there. And you know what I've noticed over the last number of years, Neil, is kids, you know, 15, 16 dreading the summer because it's going to be a summer of isolation. When I was a kid growing up in Cork there in Douglas, it was a summer of like, you know, vitality and vibrance and running out and doing whatever you wanted to all hours. And it was great living by your vagaries. But now with technology, it's a kind of, it's a silencing. da excitement, e então eles não se encontram muito, eles estão conectados mais online, que é meio paradoxal, que eles estão conectados mais, mas eles estão conectados mais, mas eles estão conectados, e então há um pouco mais silencio.
115:18
E os soft skills que as pessoas que estavam falando sobre o VoxBox, de conversar com pessoas, de conversar com seus amigos, essa skill, Neil, tem sido massivamente eroded entre crianças e crianças hoje, porque When they have any discomfort socially, they go on their phone, and so they don't develop that ability just to chat. You know, when you were down in Douglas there, and when I was a kid growing up, you'd chat to someone at the bus stop, what time was the next bus? You'd just be chatting to people all the time, chatting all the time. That stuff is so important for us because we're mammals. We're designed to be connected to each other. And when we're on our phones and disconnected from each other, that's isolation. You know, that's a depletion of our resilience and our sense of connecting to things.
115:52
How is it, though, if you observe smallies, you know, up to maybe, I don't know what age, three, four, five years old. They make friends easily. They have the best of friends. But they're chatty. They're gregarious. They're outgoing. They're opinionated. But they're very, very small. They would make friends on holidays and they'd be crying when they're going home after the halls that they're leaving their best friend behind. What happens to them then when they hit 10, 12, 14 or 16? And that...
116:19
e a sua personalidade completamente flipada.
116:23
É por isso que meu 15-year-old vai dizer ao meu restaurante, não dizer nada estranho aqui, Dad. E por isso que meu 9-year-old vai dizer, não dizer nada estranho aqui, Dad. Você sabe o que eu quero dizer? O que é isso? O que é isso? O que é isso? O que é isso? O que é isso? O que é isso? O que é isso? O que é isso? O que é isso? O que é isso? O que é isso? O que é isso? O que é isso? O que é isso? O que é isso?
116:47
So the idea of any attention coming on you that might be a negative is, you know, it's terrible, it's the worst thing that could happen to you. And so they become hypersensitive to what's around them and how they're being perceived, whereas a nine-year-old isn't. They're just being, they're just experiencing other kids, whereas a 15-year-old, 14-year-old is aware of how they've been experiencing other people and how they're being perceived. And that can be a terrible place because you're up in your head all the time, wondering and worrying about yourself.
117:11
But when does that pass actually where a son or a daughter will stop saying to a dad? No, because I'm like 30 and 32 and they're still saying to me, don't say anything weird in here now and just sit down and eat your food.
117:25
Exactly. Well, generally it should happen around, it's called rapproachment in psychology. It should happen around 18 and 19, 20.
117:32
Those brain regions calmed down. You know, the brain stops developing after about 25. So up until that point, there's all sorts of things going on in the mind and changing and developing. So around in the early 20s, that's when they should become less consumed by, you know, their peers. Their awkward father. Yes, their awkward dad, who has a propensity to say crazy things in a restaurant.
117:54
Do you know something? One of the parts of that Vox actually spoke about when is it a good time to get rid of friends or to drop friends and how to drop friends who no longer marry up to your you know, who maybe drag you down or don't share your ideals anymore
118:09
Yeah, well, I think we are living in the age of this toxic positivity where you hear online, you know, get rid of anyone who doesn't match your morals or get rid of anyone who brings you down. If we got rid of everybody that was a bit dysfunctionalised, I don't know how many people we'd have around us.
118:22
Yeah, but you don't want to be coming away from a night out or a lunch or a dinner or a couple of pints to somebody who just was boring or did drag you down or depressed you or said things that were unkind about others, say.
118:34
Well, you know how you always tell a good friend, I think, Neil? They'll celebrate... They'll help you when you're feeling bad, but a really great friend celebrates when you're doing well. That's a great sign of a really good friend that they're really delighted for you when you're doing well. And so, you know, Bob Dylan says friends will arrive and friends will disappear. And that happens through life. We have friends and they disappear and they move on. They weren't probably the deepest meaningful friends. And I think we generally hang on to the ones that are meaningful, but sometimes we lose the meaningful ones along the line.
119:01
How do you lose them though? How do you do that? Because your time is valuable.
119:05
You move away, you get a job, you're working, you've got kids. You know, the routine, the banal, the everyday, all those things get in the way. Paying your mortgage, you know, you come home, you're tired. The last thing you want to do is go playing golf or meeting the lads or whatever. You're just tired. And so that kind of creeps in incrementally and you start to lose friends and they gain some friends along the way when they're working. Those things happen. And what I'd say to that always, if there was a friend in your life that was meaningful, reconnect with them, reach out to them, you know, message them. . . . . .
119:59
I'd say reach out, reconnect and see what happens. Because neuroscience would say, you know, we've got five big personality traits. One of those is openness. And the more open we are to people, because what the Vox Box was saying there, that it gets harder as you get older. I just think we get more protective of ourselves as we get older. And I'd say reach out to people, be more open to making friends. You're never finished making friends. You know, I mean, there's so many friends that can come into your lives as you get true life and really great friends. Be open to it. Neuroscience would say far more life satisfaction and meaning if you do that.
120:28
That's fascinating because everything you say reminds me of other things and you say it gets harder as you get older but is that why then people hate the 20 year school reunion or the 25 or the 15 where they have to reconnect with old schoolmates? That's awkward, right?
120:48
Yeah, I like that idea of reconnecting, but I suppose it's where you are in life too and what you feel about your life. And if you're not that delighted about reconnecting with your school friends, I'd say that's a knocking from within. What is that? Maybe it's where you are in your position in life and say, okay, don't castigate yourself for that. Think about what you could do to change it. Because what happens to people, Neil, is that... They feel they're stuck in their career. They're stuck in what... We're never stuck. And I'd say, you know, when we've got kids and we've got responsibilities, you can still chisel your way out like Andy Dufresne in the Shawshank Redemption.
121:19
Very slowly, you can chisel your way out of whatever career you're in by adding things to it and never feel like you're stuck because this life of ours is so short. And if you're going to, like, you know, martyr yourself to some job, I would say, no, don't do that. Work your way out of it in a way that doesn't explode your life. Do it in a very careful way. But within a year or two, all of a sudden, you'd see your life is remarkably different. And then you might want to meet up with your school friends because you don't feel that negative stuff about yourself.
121:43
But mind you, you remind me of research that came out last week. I'm quite sure you're across it and how much you put any weight in this, where they're saying one in four people are bored in their relationships, that women tire faster than men. And they say that of the women that tire faster than men of their relationships, that the women, started to get fed up in under three years of being with a partner. Does that hold any water for you? They say that it takes a man five years to get fed up in a relationship.
122:11
Well, we are a bit delayed, us men in maturation.
122:15
Or maybe more tolerant.
122:17
Maybe more tolerant, or maybe, you know, there might be an inequity in the system there that allows one person to get more intolerant very quickly. And I work with this a lot, and I'm saying to, you know, women who come into a clinic, Se você está shovendo o material dentro da máquina e você está, você está, você está, você está, você está, você está, você está, você está, você está, você está, você está, você está, você está, você está, você está, você está, você está, você está, você está, você está, você está, você está, você está, você está, você está, você está, você está, você está, você está, você está.
122:50
Ou talvez seja porque é um American survey onde a divorce rates é bastante maior.
122:55
E eu também posso dizer que nós estamos em um âge onde nós estamos sendo entendidos que não podemos experimentar qualquer inconveniente. Você sabe o que eu quero dizer? O que nós vamos ter a ideia de que nós vamos ter inconveniência? Ou que nós vamos ter um descanso? Ou que nós vamos ter um descanso? Ou que nós vamos ter um descanso? Or that there'll be a drop in intimacy in our relationships or that our relationships might be difficult or complicated. What the hell has happened to us that we can't experience those things and move together and battle through that and really work at our commitments to each other? I do think we're in the age where we just kind of go, well, this is a bit tough.
123:25
Let's move on to something else.
123:26
Yeah, it's kind of a disposable world. So you're saying that relationships naturally will ebb and flow?
123:33
Of course they will. Absolutely ebb and flow. And it's when you come out of the dip that the real depth of the relationship can be found. Because if the relationship never has any faltering or has never experienced any kind of storm there, I don't think you really know the depths of it. And when you do experience the nadirs, the ups and downs, the slings and arras of life, like we all experience, everybody in a relationship experiences that as part of the human condition. Then you see the depth of the relationship.
124:00
That's why then 45% of first marriages in America end up in divorce. They don't work hard enough at it a lot of the time.
124:09
That's a high figure, isn't it? It's very high. It's very high. It is very high. And I don't think, you know, I think in Ireland we do take our marriages very seriously, most of us. And I do think we work at them. E eu acho que nós entendemos que você tem que trabalhar com eles. Eu não acho que nós temos a Disneyficação de relações aqui, como eles teriam em América. Nós entendemos que eles são os mais bonitos coisas que você nunca vai ter, mas eles são também os mais desafios que você nunca vai ter. E quando você traz crianças, você complica isso, e você traz esse wonder, mas você também traz muita força em sua vida também.
124:41
E aí, magic.
124:43
It's all those contradictory things that you experience on the daily when you're in a deep, meaningful relationship. But the fact that you can experience that and work through it together as a couple, that's what makes it, I suppose, all the richer.
124:56
We have one of the lowest divorce rates in Europe, something like 15.5 divorces per 100% of marriages. I don't know what stat that is. I think we have a divorce rate then of 15%, don't we?
125:07
Sim, sim, sim.
125:34
. . . . . .
125:57
Any advice will be helpful. Yeah.
125:59
Thanks, Neil. And I'm really sorry to read that. And that's kind of the stuff I would work a lot with in my clinic, right? And how somebody ends a relationship doesn't reflect on you. You know, it's not a reflection on her. I know where her mind is kind of going there. What have I done here? You know, what could I have done that would have changed things? I think she's probably internalizing that and making it about herself. And the reality is how somebody ends a relationship is always about them. And I will tell you about them, you know, I will tell you about what's going on with them and how they manage stress.
126:31
And it sounds like your partner, your husband there, you know, avoids it. And a true text message is incredibly disrespectful, you know, and it doesn't speak to the commitment and the marriage that you've had there. And I would look at my self-worth in relation to your partner and how they're ending it. And I'd be trying to build my self-worth back up because your confidence will be absolutely rattled to its core by that kind of idea of up and down, you know, you thought you were working at it, you thought you were bringing it back, you thought you were going to build this relationship and then all of a sudden through a text message you get told it's you know, that's terribly unsettling and upsetting and I hear that and I'd say, you know Go to somebody, talk to somebody about that professionally, about how to manage those emotions.
127:11
Your partner there obviously hasn't got the capacity, the skills to be able to manage whatever it is that's going on for him. Because it's about him, it's not about you.
127:18
As in, if you marry somebody with respect, you should leave them with respect. Exactly.
127:23
You know, if you have respect for your partner and respect for yourself too. I mean, that's ultimately letting himself down there. A text message. But people really run away from stress, Neil. It's one of the first responses, avoidance. When it comes to complicated human emotions, they'd avoid it. And that's a text message. That's avoidance.
127:43
That relationship is clearly over, yeah?
127:44
It's over, right? Yeah, well, it seems to be. And I would say to that woman there who's trying to build her life again, you will find a life again. She sounds like a young woman there. She will find a life again. And there's plenty of life out there for you. But you're going to have to, you know, go through this. There's no way around this upset and sadness. You're going to have to experience this. And out of this, you might find somebody again. You might have the courage to go back into a relationship and find somebody who does respect you, you know, and does, you know, has the capacity to be in this relationship.
128:15
And I just say to remind herself in all of this, you know, and go and speak to some really good professional to help her manage those relationships. . . . . .
128:45
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129:14
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130:02
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130:33
mas você não recebe a resposta. Para algumas pessoas, você não recebe a resposta. Mas você lembra, last week, a gente estava falando sobre um monte de coisas, incluindo os que sentam postcards, certo? Se você não recebeu em holidays, pode ser para Ballybunyan, ou West Cork, ou até Yaw, ou, indeed, Spain, ou Portugal, ou Greece, e você envia um postcard, e você envia um postcard, e você envia um postcard, e você envia um postcard, e você envia um postcard, e você envia um postcard, e você envia um postcard, e você envia um postcard, e você envia um postcard, e você envia um postcard, e você envia um postcard, e você envia um postcard, I always thought we still send them and I'm delighted to hear from last week that others do as well.
131:05
But Helen, good morning.
131:07
Good morning. Now, fair play to you. You heard the conversations we had with regards to sending holiday postcards and you sent me an attached postcard by, I think it might have been by email or by WhatsApp, front and back. Talk me through it. I see the date on it is sometime in the 1940s.
131:27
Yeah, it was the 10th of July 1948, I think, is what it says. And it was sent by my aunt, who has just left Ireland, heading to America. And it basically, it basically says up at the corner of the postcard, second day at sea. And she sent a letter home, basically just saying, hope you're all keeping well. I'm having a lovely time. Have a very nice sea, pal.
131:55
I sent a card to Scart Road, which was where her sister was living. And I left Cove at 10.30 yesterday. It was lovely coming out onto the... I'm assuming it says decking or something. I saw the last spot of Ireland. And it says, love to all, right later, Kitty. So she sent that. Just to give a bit of a background story, she was born 1928. She was 19. She was heading...
132:24
Ela era uma de 16 filhos, um dos filhos, como um dos filhos, um dos filhos para a América.
132:34
And she was, I guess she was invited over by aunts that had lived there.
132:39
And yeah, that was her day. That was her first day at sea.
132:43
And she was on board at the time, the Cunard White Star Mauritania, which had been one of the big liners from the same line that had, of course, Titanic. And they would have been quite luxurious crossings, wouldn't they?
133:00
Probably, yeah, probably. And there's a photo of it, that's the photo at the front of the postcard.
133:06
And she sent it to Bantry, to all of the family. Okay. And what became of Kitty in later life? Do you know?
133:16
Oh, yeah. She moved to Pittsburgh because for some reason, Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania, where for some reason that's where... Onde ela estava vivendo. E aí, ela conheceu seu filho, que era também de Pittsburgh, mas sua família era de Kilmalloch. Ele foi nascido na América Latina e tinha conexões em Charleville também.
133:39
And then they moved to Virginia where she married and had six children. But we, yeah, she came back here in 1972 on her first visit since 1948.
133:51
Okay, some never, ever returned. She was one of the lucky ones that got to come back because many who sailed away on ships like that said their last goodbye to Ireland.
134:02
Yes, yeah, yeah. And I think... I think my uncle travelled with her to Cove and I think he thought that was probably the last time we'd see her. But after 72, she came a few times and her family still come. Okay.
134:17
And did she pass away, I'm wondering?
134:21
Yes, she passed away in... She would have come visit... Her last visit here would have been in 2014 and she would have been 86 at that stage and she passed away in 2019.
134:35
Amazing.
134:36
And you have this postcard for 68 years in a drawer somewhere.
134:42
Well, it was probably in my uncle's house. And I think we found it. She was one of six. Four of them lived well into their 80s, including my mother. And I think it was probably when we were tidying up my uncle's house, he passed away in 2013. Amazing. We probably, my mother I would imagine found a box or whatever with cards in it, kept it and we found it then when my mother passed away. That's amazing.
135:14
And I said this is, I did think to myself this was a bit of history. So what I'd done was I photocopied it. I sent it to my six cousins in America and I saved one for myself.
135:26
The essence of adventure for that 19-year-old West Cork girl heading into America on the Mauritania, away from home for the first time and the adventure that lay ahead. I mean, talk about your heart beating with excitement, I'd say. Would you help?
135:41
Oh, yeah. I can imagine. I can imagine, yeah. When she went to Pittsburgh, she went working for the 3M company. They were, I'm not sure she worked in the office there because, For some reason, she managed to do a secretarial course or something here, and she had worked in D'Earnville, I think in the office in D'Earnville in Cork, back then.
136:05
But it would be like chalk and cheese, from West Cork to Pennsylvania. Oh, yeah. Or to Pittsburgh. Talk about a culture shock.
136:13
Amazing. And she lived in Virginia then after that.
136:17
Yeah. Great outdoors.
136:19
Wonderful.
136:19
Well, that one's going to be hard to beat, I can tell you. 1948 postcard on the Mauritania. You're right up there. And how's things with you? Where are you now? Are you West Cork? Are you in the city?
136:29
I'm West Cork. I'm West Cork, between Bantry and Skipperine, the place called Cora. So, I'm still in West Cork.
136:38
Kids? Grandkids? Anything like that?
136:39
Yeah, I would have four children myself, yeah. But they're all adults. The youngest is 18. So, yeah.
136:47
I got these wonderful, wonderful family passes for the Clonacilty Park Adventure Centre and Golf. You'll know this. It's part of the Clonacilty Park Hotel. I don't know if you have any smallies or maybe nieces and nephews.
137:01
I can find a few smallies.
137:02
Well, please do, because they're going to love the aerial trekking, the high ropes, the climbing tower, the zip line, the power fan, the adventure golf, and the 10-pin bowling alley that's just been opened there. So I want to give you one of our family passes for that, Helen. It's lovely chatting with you. That was great. Thank you very much. Thank you so much. Take care of yourself. All the best. That's great. I love those kind of stories because they, you know, like even, you know, I know I've got a vivid imagination, but, you know, for anybody that went overseas and started a new life, the sense of excitement, because I don't think that there's any real fear at that age, right?
137:36
You're 18, 19, 20 years old. You know, there's no real fear. You're just full of excitement and the opportunities that I had for anyone, me included, although I was later, I was like 26, 27 years.
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Quando eu first went to, I was 26 anyway, I guess, when I went to Canada, there's just excitement and the whole idea of opportunity and, you know, new borders and new opportunities and things like that. So I love those kind of stories. It would mean the world to me and my family if we had a chance to win one of your family passes for the Clonacilty Adventure Centre. A little day away is something we could really use. . . . . . . .
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We also have a wonderful nine-year-old son who is always on the go. He's the best big brother anyone could ask for and he never stops looking out for his two sisters. Philly says to me, winning this would give us the opportunity to spend some special time together as a family, make some lovely memories and give my amazing wife a well-deserved treat. Thank you for considering our entry. That's from Philly. Well, not only have we considered your entry, but how could we say no?
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to you and your beautiful family there seems to be a real sense of love and bond within your family and you're very lucky to have it and you and your wife are absolute superstars as is your son and your two girls and I have no problem in the wide earthly world in giving you your day away at the Clonic Hilty Adventure Centre we're going to try to add something to that too for your family so leave it with us because we'd like to big the prize up a little bit more because you know I know there's a lot of love there, but there's also a lot of challenges and a lot of hard work, and you're not shirking from that.
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And if nobody else has told you that in the past, I'm telling you now, you're just a wonderful family, great mom and dad, and a great brother as well, helping his two sisters. And you know something, I came across something recently which really moved me, and I pass it on for what it's worth this morning when we talk about families and things like that. E é isso.
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Porque wealth can be used up, positions can be lost, but brothers and sisters who get along well are as priceless a blessing right up to old age. And I think I pass that on to parents in particular. If you have sons and daughters who are good with each other and tight with each other and look out for each other, then you have done really well as parents. Tchau, tchau, tchau.
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Chame-me Shannon Maldonado, sou a fundadora da Yawi, uma loja de souvenirs com artigos artesanais e peças selecionadas por artistas. Escolhi a Shopify porque depois de experimentar outras plataformas, esta foi sem dúvida uma das mais intuitivas. Para mim, foi importante pensar onde estaríamos no futuro. Todas as ferramentas para analisar as vendas, como a gestão de inventário, estão ali mesmo, no nosso dashboard. Comece a sua avaliação gratuita em shopify.com.
